I’m still pursuing recovery, but I’ve realized that it’s hard to pursue recovery when you feel like no one loves you. Why bother fixing myself if I’m all alone in this world?
I know, I know. There are definitely people out there who DO love me. I know this logically, I know it with my head, but my heart must not have gotten the memo, because it has no idea. What I know doesn’t line up with what I feel, and I wish I knew how to fix it.
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I wish I knew too. Disconnected…
I know logically that no one loves me except maybe my family members (sometimes they’ve acted psycho but they can be nice too). I AM completely alone in the world except for them when they feel like being supportive.
It is what it is.
Maybe I’m strange that way, but I don’t much care if people love me, i.e. harbour warm feelings towards me/proclaim their love for me.
I care about people who make my life better.
Obviously just “feelings” from anyone won’t be very helpful. I believe that when you care about people you show it by assisting them when you can, and listening to them and paying attention, and doing other things to “bring them joy,” but it also means not being an enabler and not tolerating untoward behavior.
True. It’s about bringing out the best in them.
Well, I don’t believe that love is just a feeling. It’s a verb. It’s doing. If you love someone, you’re going to do whatever you can to make them happy or do what’s best for them. Or at least, that’s the way it should be. So I sorta agree with you.
My caveat would be that you need to have a life of your own, or you risk becoming more of a groupie than an equal partner.
Love..imho…is both a feeling (noun) and an action (verb). You both show and feel. But show more than feel. You know they say you get in sometimes what you put out. Ofcourse I know that’s not always true. That’s what hurts so much. Giving and then being ignored or rejected…..