Do you know what the only way to NOT be made fun of is? To not get picked on, or harassed, or joked about, have people be mean or nasty to you, or verbally attack you (either to your face or behind your back)?
That’s right- be mediocre. Be perfectly mediocre.
-If you are ugly, ppl make fun of you and won’t want to date you.
-If you are beautiful, men will harass you, leer at you, say dirty and disgusting things to you, and women will be nasty or passive aggressive to you because they’re jealous.
-If you wear nice or bright colored clothes, or revealing clothes- you are an attention whore.
-If you wear drabby clothes, or want to cover up so no one leers at you- you are a prude, get made fun of for wearing ugly clothes, nobody pays any real attention to you, and you get passed over.
-If you’re dumb, well people are going to make fun of you.
-Too smart and people will call you names, like nerd, dork, four-eyes, pick on you, and be made fun of till the end of eternity. You will be too uncool to be friends with or be seen with.
-If you are too tall, people will make fun of you, especially if you’re a girl.
-If you are too short, people will make fun of you, especially if you’re a guy. But don’t worry, short girls will be made fun of too.
-If you are too fat, people will make fun of you and call you names.
-If you’re too skinny, people will make fun of you, calling you anorexic or bulimic or make mean jokes because they’re jealous. Or they will say you look unhealthy, sick or disgusting. They will constantly poke you and grab you, because if you’re skinny, it’s okay to poke them and make fun of them. They will constantly watch what you’re eating and how much you’re eating. If you eat too little in front of people, they will say you must be an anorexic starving yourself. If you pig out and eat a lot, they will say you’re bulimic and will watch you every time you go to the bathroom. If you eat normal, they will say something too, because they are jealous of you and they have to made some kind of snide remark because they’re jealous and it’s totally acceptable to make fun of skinny people.
-If you’re a guy and “girly”- you are effeminate, emo, weak, too sensitive.
-If you’re a girl and tomboyish- you are not a girl or real woman, you’re too aggressive, unattractive. If you a a girl and love watching boxing or MMA, you are too violent. But if you’re a guy, it’s just a guy into sports. If you’re a guy and you’re *not* into any sports whatsoever, well then you’re gay. See “girly” above.
This is human nature, eh? If you veer ever to the slightest bit left or right of “normal” or “average,” you will be attacked and made fun of. This is something I’ve noticed since grade school, and never understood, and I am “old” now. Middle age, so that is “old” in my eyes. And no, things don’t get better. People don’t get better with age. Mean kids just grow up to be mean adults. Only now they may be your shitty supervisor, or shitty co-workers, or shitty cops. Or insert any other profession.
Why can’t people just accept other people and just stop being arseholes?
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Knuckle-draggers drag their knuckles, no-one knows why they still act like they’re on a middle school playground. Just offer them a wowwypop and tell them to keep trying and one day maybe they’ll get their big boy/girl pants too.
So everyone who isn’t average in every aspect gets harassed starting in grade school and all the way through their career. This is consistent with what I have found too. I remember driving home from work and trying to will myself to wind it too about 100mph and ram something, that is how much workplace harassment affected me. So yeah.
Well written. It was revealing to see all this written out concisely and comprehensively. And it is true too, damn.
Exactly. You just can’t win in this game called “life.” We’re either too this or too that, or not enough this or that- too tall, too short, too skinny, too ugly, too pretty, too nice, too mean, too soft, too rough, too trusting, too distrustful, too sad, too happy, etc. Just fuck it all.
“Just fuck it all.” I find the game of life is a no win game. Hell, even the winners are losing.
We are taught to not stick out, to conform and to be like everyone else. Yet, only those who do stick out become stars, celebrities, super successful, etc. Well..at least those few who do make it. The rest are just scarred for life due to a lifetime of bullying and torment for being different, for being an “individual.”
I try to be boring. By boring I don’t attract attention. I’m not memorable. I don’t offend. I love being boring. People leave me alone without me being d*ickhead to them. Cos I’m always a d*ckhead apparently. A mardy d*ckhead.
Blending in like wallpaper and going unnoticed is an underrated skill…
I prefer a logical brain to blissful ignorance. Simply put, blissful ignorance tends to equate to leaving things as they are, ie perpetuating the status quo. At least if you have the capacity to analyze and think, you can see all of the bullshit that really goes on. May not always be able to fix every problem, but at least you’re aware of them, if that makes any sense.
Yes, I am very aware, which is one of the main reasons why I’m depressed about life. Sometimes I wish I was a slap-happy ignorant chap, going about my merry way, thinking everything is awesome (cue Lego’s ‘Everything is Awesome’ song)…
They say this shit stops in school but adults are no better in fact they can be worse due to their life experience, combined with being a prick, just to manipulate you to shreds.
People are worse as adults bc now they can do things to you- they’re administrators, staff, bosses, cops- people who can give you hell. And they do bc they’re all pissed off at their life and so take it out on others.
Adults in the workplace can be nasty indeed. Unfortunately, I tend to be productive and proactive in the workplace. This offended the workplace bullies and eventually cost me a well paying job a few years ago. It cost the company quite a bit too as my specialty is hard to find. I have utterly rearranged work life to make a recurrence unlikely.
huh? how can you prevent that?
“I tend to be productive and proactive in the workplace”
–There’s your problem right there. If you were mediocre, you would’ve been left alone. Do you job too well, and you face the wrath of the jealous mf’s. Do your job bad, you get canned. Lesson of the day, just be mediocre and you’ll be left alone. Unfortunately, that’s the sad fact of life.
@eternaldarkness huh? how can you prevent that? Good questions both. I now work for and with people whose intelligence and drive seems very nearly like my own. We all respect and appreciate one another and have for years. This arrangement was years in the making while I was still working with and for those you aptly described as “jealous mf’s.”
Ah so I nailed it. I’ve had my giant share of “jealous mf’s” in my lifetime, always trying to knock me down and sabotage me.
Wow, great situation you have now. Most are not so lucky.
Do nothing,say nothing, be nothing, fade into the background. What I live by.
But words don’t hurt, you know. They are cheap and meaningless. But….. just be yourself it is easy
Honestly words hurt a lot for me, they’re just another form of relaying reality.
Dude this whole post is so fucking true. It makes me very disappointed in the human race.
Me too!
Interesting thought, but I think it only skims the surface. People are not bullied for who they are, they are bullied because they look like easy targets. Two identical looking people can be dropped in two identical towns, and if 1 person is confident and outgoing, he/she will not be bullied while the other who is meek and mild (easy target) will be bullied. It’s the law of nature and we humans abide by it too. Scrawny little dogs often stare down big shepherds and put them in their place. Similarly if you walk into a room of strangers with confidence (not to be confused with looking like an asshole) people will naturally respect you and treat you better than someone who hides in the corner.
Yes indeed. Toxic people look for easy targets. They are always have two things on their minds. Their needs and our weaknesses. I lack basic personal confidence so I am targeted already by the toxic assholes and I am a non-conformist in that I like to outshine fellow workers which brings on another set of issues. Thus I am doubly screwed in the ordinary workplace and I no longer participate in it.
That’s the sad truth for most of us. Lack of confidence might be even worse than a physical disadvantage, because physical disadvantages can sometimes be fixed or hidden, but your personality is what you’re stuck with. Currently I have the confidence of a dead slug so I’m pretty screwed.
Well defined summary of the usual typical human responses. And yes, to be mediocre is to be invisible. It can be a blessing. Especially if you can keep your focus on the non-human part of the world. Explore nature, get a pet to love, pursue creativity, etc. So much more fulfilling.
I think it all comes down to insecurities. There since primitive humans organized into tribes/clans probably. There doesn’t seem to be anyone who’s free of them(maybe a few zen masters). The average person’s fears/concerns of how they are perceived cause them to do and say nasty stuff to or about others.
For example a lot of good looking people in the world fear aging or losing their looks. So they often look with revulsion or insult or make fun of what they see as unattractive people. They’ll say things like you need to work out, get Botox or do this or that to improve yourself. The truth is they see you as a representation of what will eventually happen to them and that’s terrifying. It’s where the “I want to party hard, die young and leave a pretty corpse” statement comes from. Just like the wealthy can only be friends with the wealthy because the poor or lower income ppl inspire fear of not having the benefits that come with wealth. Even though they are usually never fulfilled regardless how much they have. We see celebrities dating/marrying only other celebrities for the same reasons. How terrifying to be just mediocre or ordinary! Don’t need to be with or around someone who reminds of that!
In a way I’d say being gay has freed me from it all somewhat. In the time period/place I grew up I saw myself on the losing end with nearly all people so I gave up on conformity at a young age and developed my own idea of who I was and what reality is. It was like a “get out of jail free” card. Not that it wasn’t lonely at times. I so desperately wanted to find someone who saw things like I did. Really thought I was in my own Twilight Zone episode where that kid was born on the wrong planet. So many ppl look like angry animals in a cage they made for themselves where there’s no lock on the door but they’re afraid to come out of the conformity. They just rage against the bars. This is true of the gay male body obsessed culture too. My experiences also taught me to not take my own insecurities out on others because it was so important for me to not be “like them”. So I too used negative polarity figures myself to a degree.