I’m sixteen. How long have I lived? Not that long. Some people here already have their lives and families. I still get my dentist appointments covered by my parents. I’ve been crying a lot lately. I don’t know. I just feel worthless and stupid. I don’t know. Maybe I don’t deserve to have this aching pain in my heart. My father said to “stop exposing myself” and that “people have worse problems than me and act more put together than me”. Maybe that’s it. Maybe I’m just not cut out for this. Maybe I just need to die. Maybe I…
I wish there was an easy way out.
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It isn’t about how big your problems but how badly they affect you. Some of us can handle mountains and some can’t handle ant hills and there’s nothing to feel ashamed about if you can’t handle it.
Parents have a lot on their plate too (although they should be more supportive than that) and they might be reacting to you because of their stressors.
One easy way out is to ignore what we don’t like in the world. It’s tough to learn to a fine point and takes patience to fully develop but in the end it’s worth it.
I wish you well friend.
Thank you so much for this: “It isn’t about how big your problems (are) but how badly they affect you.”
And this: “Some of us can handle mountains and some can’t handle ant hills and there’s nothing to feel ashamed about if you can’t handle it.”
Profound and true. I have been severely affected by traumas that others can take in stride. Well, they can and I can’t. Quite a shame reducing idea for me!
I agree with the other comment. Don’t let your father belittle the way you feel. People react differently and have different levels they can handle. I also find myself feeling similar but I have to remind myself that just because other people have bigger problems don’t mean mine don’t matter or aren’t important because theyre affecting me/ my life. its hard but I think youre probably a good person and you just have feelings. I hope things get better
Please try not to let people invalidate your feelings, and don’t start doing it to yourself. You are who you are and for the most part react how you react.
Denying what you feel won’t get you anywhere — and definitely won’t increase your ability to feel like you can cope. As I’m sure you know deep down, your emotions are signalling that something is very wrong and by assertively acknowledging this, as you have done, you are taking the first steps to addressing it.
Best wishes
Also, your Dad is probably forgetting how hellish it can be just to be 16!