Ah, I was really looking forward to my date on Sunday, the last time I would get to see him before I went back to the States… But he was honest with me in saying “probably” instead of “yes”, so I can’t really be mad that it turns out that he can’t, because they need him to come in and work at the other restaurant.
He apologized to me quite a bit. But then, because it turns out we won’t be going on a date, I gave him the gifts that I bought for him.
And honestly I think that more than anything else that really tore him up. He apologized so much, and so sincerely, and he also almost cried.
I think he expected me to react differently, maybe to get mad at him. The fact that I was understanding and had bought him a present I think really was not how he was expecting this to happen.
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I think you did the right thing, yu showed him love and understanidng and he gave the reaction to it that shows he likes you too. It’s bad yu ahve to miss him so long onw. What do you feel about it? Do yoou love him?
I feel really fondly towards him, but I’m not sure that I know him well enough to actually love him yet. He’s Japanese, so he can be a bit stoic at times. And sometimes we both feel nervous to talk to each other because of the language barrier. I think I could develop love for him, but right now I just don’t know him well enough to love him in an authentic way.
Than you did the right thing with buying a present for him. I hope you will get to know him better although online is maybe more difficult than in real life. Do you think you both can wait for eachother until you can go and visit him again?
It’s maybe rude to say, but honestly, I think he is just too busy to start seeing someone else. I’m not quite sure that we are a couple, because of different cultural expectations. But I find myself wanting to wait for him.
I think the way you handled the situation was great! I don’t like the word classy but it seems to fit. You are much stronger than you give yourself credit for.