help, the world is drowning me.
at least once a week I’m heavily reminded of how the men around me view me, and I can’t take it anymore
when I was in a different country with a different culture I was so happy–no one made degrading sexualized comments in professional settings, no one used their friendship with me to get access to my body, the one time a stranger grabbed my ass at a bar he was immediately kicked out by the bouncers.
when I was growing up I was told I could be so much more and I wanted it and I believed it;
I thought I could be a hero
or a doctor
or an engineer
or a marine biologist
or a veterinarian.
and I guess I can study those things and get those jobs, but in so many eyes I’ll only be a sex toy. or a *****.
it’s not even the rapes or sexual assaults that are breaking me. it’s the people who I thought I could trust showing their true views of me. it’s a friend I’ve known for years taking photos up my skirt and finding excuses to feel my chest and my ass. it’s another craning for a better view when I bend over and loudly “appreciating” the view. it’s my coworkers dismissing me with a comment about wanting to fuck me. it’s a new friend who refuses to speak with me when I don’t want to hookup with him. it’s a lab partner blowing me off because I’m not hot enough for him to spend time or energy on. the bad men are supposed to be few & easy to identify. but it’s been feeling like they’re everywhere. I can handle a few bad men, but I don’t know what to do when so many of them are treating me more like an object to enjoy or throw away than a person.
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That is the world we live in. Some men are disgusting. I just wrote a post about how hard is to be ugly, knowing that I will never find someone. You are living the other side of this superficial society. There is nothing we can do about it. Sorry about this sad situation you are living
I love your story. Don’t pay attention to it and it will go away. Focus on bigger goals.
Break all ties with that friend, if he does those things he doesn’t deserve someone as amazing as you. No matter what happens, know that you are amazing and way better than those ***holes that dare call themselves men.
I guess the only thing i can say is for you to find another job(perhaps back in your home country or in another country where these acts are uncommon). Failing to do so, try to befriend female coworkers or try your best to avoid those people. No one should be discriminated or harassed for something as stupid as gender.
If you really can’t take it, i’ve got another idea(But i’m not sure if it’s great)
Since you said it was so common, record it using your smartphone or some hidden camera on your person and send it to some influential female celebrity of social media etc. It’s bound to get noticed eventually (since anything in the media is circulated really fast)
However, i don’t really know what will happen to your job .-. so make sure you found another source of income or blur your face out in the video? (IM REALLY NOT SURE WHAT WILL HAPPEN)
And finally, you can be so much more. you can be anything you want, and all you need to do is persevere. don’t let people around you pull you down. you said you were raped(witaf), does your employer not care, call the cops woman
sry for the long post, ty for reading
I hate these men. I know what it feels like to and it has taken a toll on me. I read that you need healthy boundaries. Straight out tell them that you’re not interested. You must stand up for yourself. If he grabs you can hit him back or spray him with pepper spray. The reason they’re doing this is because they think you are a doormat and you must show them that you are not.