Hey guys! I’m here again after many months I wrote my last post. My life is lonely as always. It’s not changed anything. I’m still a virgin and in some months I’ll be 24. Nobody has any interest to talk to me and be my friend. Girls are the same, indifferent and they don’t want to help me to get away from my loneliness. There is a girl in my job who is blond and hot. I like her and I’d love her to be my girlfriend. But after I talked to her for the first time, she started to avoid me. She always ignores me. She realized I’m a creep and probably a virgin. When I remember that she’s like other girls who rejected me in the past, I feel the necessity to kill myself and end this suffering. Fuck my life! How can I change my life if nobody wants to be my friend and no girl wants to be my girlfriend? I don’t know what to do. Fuck!! Fuck!! Holy fucking fuck!!
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yep 😀 same story here. i think im a shit magnet
Yeah.. Same here.
I’m one giant shit magnet for sure.
So much failure… Hopefully I can at least kill myself successfully.
Hey how are you doing brother. I recently saw your post on Elliot Roger on his height and how you say that you feel suicidal because you are of the same or of similar height, being short. Let me just say that this whole histaria of men being insecure about their short stature makes little to no sense to me. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 20 but that was by choice because I was extremely religious when I was younger.
There are even studies that suggest that even on dating websites such as eHarmony, shorter guys actually have better chances than taller guys at attracting women. My friend is 5″9 and has gotten 500 matches on TInder in two weeks. That’s an absolute rarity on Tinder for a guy to get that many matches in that short a time span or ever tbh.
Here’s my opinion on being short and/or how that may effect you being a virgin or getting a girlfriend. Most girls prefer taller guys, that’s just the reality. I myself am 5″9 (supposedly the same height as Elliot Roger) and I too notice that. But don’t think most girls wouldn’t want to be with you. Girls who prefer taller guys in my opinion generally aren’t the most attractive bunch. Not all the time, because there are those that are. I’ve seen and met these girls IRL before. But usually these girls are either hoes or they’re ugly or alright. I’m speaking about those with ridiculous standards in men. Same can be said about guys who have unrealistic standars. Usually they’re not that attractive either.
You being short will not effect your ability to attract or get with women. Most of the guys i’ve met who supposedly get laid the most are shorter dudes. Usually tall guys be bragging about getting laid a lot usually just end up being with roughly 5 girls their entire lifetime. Point is simply, you never want to be a guy who gets laid a lot because usually most girls who you’ll mess with aren’t gonna be that attractive and it will just increase your chances of getting an STD which will ruin your entire life.
Here’s the thing. They key to getting girls is to quit chasing them. Women generally are attractive to men who are confident, have a goal in mind and is trying their hardest to achieve it, guys who are very fun to be around, and guys whom generally put themselves first before anybody. Any guy who doesn’t do this generally does not value themselves and therefor why would you expect some women to value you just enough to sleep with you. You want to get laid, fine I completely understand, I was in the same boat as you. I too was extremely depressed and suicidal when I felt as though I couldn’t.
Here’s an idea: start by hitting the gym and DON’T DO IT just to lose weight or to “get attractive”. Do it to gain confidence, learn about yourself, and learn about what you want in life. The gym will teach you that every challenge life throws at you, you can defeat it by working hard. Two, starting working on building your life. Start a business, why not a YouTube channel too. Work hard towards something your passionate about. Three, join a club, go back to school, go to night clubs and parties and you will meet a lot of people. Make friends or even get laid. Four, have fun. Enjoy your life to the max. Love yourself, love who you are, and love what you are doing. You will become a beacon of positive energy. And positive energy attracts many people, especially women. You will gain plenty of VALUABLE friends and you will get laid. But just understand that getting women isn’t the point and making friends isn’t the point either. Women and sex will not make you happy. If anything it will make you confused because you would have made sex, your entire life, the beacon of happiness to only realize that its smelly, messy, enjoyable, but doesn’t really mean much when you do it with just some random women. Find happiness in yourself. Women will come, that’s a definite. Trust me they will.
Forget that hot girl at work. Quit making moves towards her and let her make moves towards you. A suggestion, what usually works for me is that I will always give a girl i’m attracted to some indication that I like her at first but then completely drop it. Then I wouldn’t flirt with her anymore but always keep direct eye contact with her every time we talked. Direct eye contact is usually the strongest form of intimacy. I am not saying that she will sleep with you if you do that, just that your conversations and small talk will be much more valued.
That’s it bro. Keep working hard. You got this!