Is it possible……im not even sure how to word this question….umm…..what if you love someone is it possible you dont actually love them and its just your seperation anxiety making you believe that you love them? That was confusing but i dont know how else to word it.
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I had an experience many years ago that would make me say yes. My girl left for a two week vacation, and I just crumbled. My world fell apart. (Or so it seemed.) In retrospect, I didn’t love her, I’ve never loved any human, but I was devastated by her leaving. Her leaving. In the days after her departure, sanity was restored and when she returned I was happy to see her, showering her with all my false “I love you’s, I missed you’s” etc. The shock came from her leaving, not from my loving her. So yes, I understand this.
I think it would be your emotions at play there. I think its possible
I’m going to have to agree with PM….it is a mix of emotions unless you hate a person but don’t want them to go, that would be the separation anxiety.
Love and separation anxiety would be complementary emotions. Usually, people know if they love someone or if they need someone in their life and fear to lose them.
I would say absolutely yes, in most cases people mistake separation anxiety for love. Ask anyone who’s been in “love” multiple times. They will almost always say that they thought they were in love, but it wasn’t really. The more insecure we are, the more we attach ourselves to anyone who will give us attention and affection. We’re too insecure to admit that it’s just insecurity. So we cloak it in lofty ideals of “love” because if poets and artists and great people fall in love then we can be just like them. I’m currently going through the worst case of heartbreak, but I’m honest enough to admit that it wasn’t love. It was just a smoking hot girl who treated me like I was a god. Who wouldn’t be tore up at losing that? Doesn’t make it love though.
And this is the problem with everything. Another part of me wonders if I’m just mistaking things for other things because as my friend and I say I’m “broken” I over think everything and I can come up with 1000 reason why it could be both answers.