So I put a post on here about a month ago or so about a situation I’m in. School ending has not helped at all, but to anyone out there that wants to hear my story I’ll give a recap. An ex-friend, who I will call Callie, had been pulling away from me and I didn’t understand why. I wanted to understand why, so I asked. And she said everything was fine, as did everyone else. I didn’t understand though, so I kept pushing. It got worse and worse. I was talking to another friend, who I’m going to call Eli, and she took my phone and texted herself Callie’s number. I told her not to, but about a month later without my knowledge she did text Callie. The text wasn’t threatening, but Callie and her family called the police and are pressing charges. They first thought it was me with a burner phone, but I had nothing to do with it. The police told me and my family that they were going back to Callie and her family to try to convince them not to press charges, but the hearing is in a week and a half. I don’t know the details as the trial is private and I’m not officially a part of the case. Despite the fact that I had nothing to do with it, Callie has told a few of my mutual friends that Eli and I were working together to threaten her. I was afraid that if I had been in contact with any of our closer mutual friends that somehow Callie would pin something on me. Now all of the mutual friends are angry at me. I’ve tried to smooth things over, but then I figured that they would be forced to choose. The selfless part of me likes to say that it was because I know it would be hard on them to choose. The selfish part of me kinda knows that I couldn’t deal with the pain of them choosing her over me. Maybe they wouldn’t have, but none of them tried to reach out. And the entire thing has hurt. A lot. Now I just feel guilty about the entire ordeal. But I’m scared that I’ve lost those friends forever. I’m still really close with one friend who isn’t as close with Callie or the rest of them, but I really didn’t want to lose the rest of those friends, if I haven’t already. They won’t respond to my texts and I can’t see them with school being out. I’m scared I’ve lost them for good and there’s nothing more I can do about it. I don’t actually know this, but I feel like they all hate me because they think I did something to Callie. I had nothing to do with what happened, but after the little amount of talking I’ve been able to do with them they always refer to what Eli and I did. I don’t know what to do. And now I can’t help but be angry with both Callie and Eli. I am near certain Callie hates me, and that means she’s probably turned a bunch of the others against me. And I’m worried that there’s nothing I can do about it. I know that no one is probably read this or anything, but if there’s anyone out there with advice I’d really love to hear it.
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Sorry, I’m not really good with advices. But that is just so fucked up. If I know one thing is that if they are really your friends they would never turn their backs on you. I wish things will get better for you my friend. Just know that you have friends here.
Eli sounds like a better friend than Callie…. At least what they did was for you, even if horribly misguided and actually ending horribly.
Well the damage is done, Eli sent a message what the heck was in it to get the police involved?
They can determine who sent what, Your not responsible if someone sends someone a text in your behalf if you didn’t ask them too, This is a mess! I have to say I really don’t think it can be fixed to your desires either, and just go away, the only thing you can do is tell the truth and the out come will be whatever it is. Remember we make mistakes sometimes they can cost us a lot more then we could ever imagine! What ever the outcome is nobody’s dead you might have to start over, and learn a lesson it’s not the end of the world although you might feel that way. Over time things will get better no matter what happens with this situation. I’ll give you one of my bad examples, I go to the casino and lose all my money or give it to a friend and they lose it! Chances are if I explain to the casino it was a mistake there not going to give my money back.
Sorry I was so brutally honest , I hope things go far better for you. Remember it’s not the end of the world!
Oh and I’m not yelling at you in the picture! there is a microphone in my hand I’m singing! 🙂
this really sucks an advice tho i think it would be hard to fix things honestly. tho if it’s possible text them somewhere after a while and say hi lots of stuff happened i wanted to explain but i needed some time out or sth. that doesn’t mean they’ll come back tho. only the ones who are your good true friends will. just do not let them go without trying also leave callie really just do not even mention her anymore because a friend wouldnt do that. alli is has good intentions but what she did was wrong but it’s alright u can’t really get mad at someone who wanted good for you yeah? just give it time and try not to lose complete contact and if nth works always be sure you will find new people in uni “if youre planning to go” life really moves on and im sorry that happened to you.. hehe i can be your friend if you want? not creepy but like yeah
Hey thanks for all you guys that have replied. Yeah it’s just a horrible situation. The part of the text interpreted as threatening said something alone the lines of “if you hurt her again, the next one to be hurt will be you”. But again the police went back to try to convince them not to press charges.