i fucking hate males. so im wearing a sort of revealing top. its summer. its sweltering out. who wouldnt? but i want to go to the store. so i change it. to start with i shouldnt have to. males should have the decency to show females a little respect. (yes vice versa however that is not what im ranting about and i do show others respect until they lose it. male or female) so i change my shirt, go to the store. dont i get whistled at on my way home. because apparently i need to wear i fucking parka. it seems either youre pretty and your going to get used and hurt. and treated like piece of meat. like a belonging. or youre “ugly” by their standards and get used because youre “easy” or treated like you dont exist and if you do exist they are making fun calling you fat or whatever fucking name they come up with. there is no happy medium. and no i dont speak of all guys i know a few that would never do such a thing but i do speak of most of them. and it really pisses me off. oh freedom all that shit. yeah because if im free i get treated like shit. sounds free to me.
i just dont understand why its so difficult to keep your d*** in your pants. no im not as crazy as most feminist. please tell me i look pretty. give me an honest to god complaint. i wont call the cops on sexual harassment thats just stupid but call me sexy, call me smoking, treat me like shit and then we have problem.
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id also like to add that i consider myself an equalist not a feminist. where a feminist will only look at their point of view it seems i will look at both and if i feel the female is in the wrong i will point it out. i am not always on the females side. however in this case… im getting tired of it. i should be able to take a 5 minute walk without being hit on.
I can see it sucks being in that position. It’s hard to understand the mindset. I whistled at a girl once, when I was 15. I think I mainly did it to try and impress the group of friends I was with – they told me to shut up, I felt stupid and learned not to do it again.
As for doing it as a grown man…I think maybe some guys never learn how to moderate their libido. They see someone they like, and dumb shit just reflexively springs from their mouths. Perhaps they’ve had positive reinforcement at some point in the past – some women seem to reward being aggressively hit on. Perhaps they’re just too stupid to realise their comments aren’t welcome. Or perhaps like you say, they just don’t see women as fully human – I guess for complex social reasons. I wouldn’t say I’m perfect myself in this respect – I often catch myself looking just that little bit too long at passing attractive women. I try not to be creepy, but it really is kind of instinctive – something you do without consciously realising it.
But anyway, I can see it sucks. Lots of guys are kind of shitty to a greater or lesser extent, myself included. I wouldn’t want to be born female, though I guess there are some perks.
i specifically stated i dont hate all men and idc about race or anything. what i hate are the people who think they are more important and the males who treat women poorly. im sorry if i explained it badly. i tried my best but i was really angry at the time.
also i completely agree with you. we dont need more hate in the world. i hate hate but what i hate more is being treated poorly and i wont stand by and let it happen. i wouldnt stand by and watch it happen to someone else, no matter who they were
If that’s true then you might want to edit your post to remove your first statement, your thesis statement: “I fucking hate males” because guess what… that hurts. Ok? It really hurts. Don’t change it for me, I’m out of here. Just change it for the next person who’s sick of all the tit-for-tat hatred and comes to this site in a state of vulnerability. It hurts. Adios.
im sorry i hurt you but like i said i didnt mean all males and i even said that. if you feel hurt then thats your opinion. the i hate males comment does not specify anything. if it said i hate ALL males then i would understand your point especially since i would have contradicted it later in the post. however since it was explained i feel no need to change it.
I didn’t get the impression that she really hated all men – it just seemed like she was expressing frustration after a repetitively obnoxious experience. Which is understandable, as we tend to class men and women as groups rather than individuals. Obviously #notallmen, and no one should be stigmatised for something they take no part in.
The only reason to get offended by this is if it resonates with how you’ve treated women in the past. I don’t even see how it could be offensive, imo. From her position, that kind of cat-calling would be incredibly annoying, and it’s her impetus to express that frustration. All there is to it.
i do see how it could be offensive however because i went on to explain myself i dont see the problem with the whole post. and yes it is very annoying. at work theres this guy that always looks at my breasts and idc that hes a customer or that hes older….none of that makes it appropriate. and he doesnt just look he stares
HDL, beauty is a double-edged sword. You’ll attract the kind of guys you want but also the ones you don’t and frankly from what I’ve seem most men are not very desirable, then they have bad social skills on top of it.
Some of these loser guys know this is as far as they’ll get in life so they’ll try their luck with anyone they see. You just have to brush them off, it just comes with the territory.
As for hating men, I understand and I know you don’t blame them all. Some men deserve to be hated because of who they are and how they treat women.
I’d suggest avoiding men who belong to any religion that teaches them that women are inferior or sluts and need to be kept indoors. Those are the worst.
Really it’s not hard to figure out how to behave in public…. Most of the time people don’t want to be bothered by strangers…. I’ve never understood the catcall thing, nor have I witnessed from anybody but a complete douche that I went to high school with…. Even the other douches did not appreciate it. But it’s not like that’s going to ever lead to any desirable outcome at all for the person, either the person doesn’t respond, or responds negatively…. I don’t understand :/
Also side note I really dislike that the mainstream face of feminism is currently very meh, but I won’t really get heavily into that -_- It’s just really unhelpful -also will not currently call themselves a feminist-
although (another) random note, holding a door open for somebody to like hand it to them because they are almost at the door when you are using it, is probably an acceptable interaction with strangers…. It’s at least common here, you always hold the door for a person that be close, always…. And if their hands are full you well, actually hold the door for them, which I’m actually really horrid and awkward at because I can never figure out how to hold a door that opens outward while leaving without having to like awkwardly shuffle around it to be out of the way, because everybody else makes things like this look effortless and it’s much less awkward. -_- sorry that was just a thought thing that came to my head.
Gosh its scary in this comment section! Personally, i think you have the right to hate whatever you want! (Except birds and dogs, they’re cute). I kinda hate all humans to an extent. Destroying everything on this planet. But hey, even humans can be cute sometimes.
Wow, I feel good reading this. I am not the only one who hates men. I don’t even see them as human beings. For me, a person who is able to raped another one shuldnt be consider a human being. Men are responsible for 90? of crimes in the world and almost 100? of the rapes. It is a shame that I can’t express myself in english so well, because I would love vent about how I hate men.
i would like to point out that women do all that stuff too. its just not talked about as much but that doesnt mean it doesnt happen.
plus they arent all true i know a few girls that called rape just so their parents wouldnt find out the truth or to get attention.
HDL, I am a therapy client suffering from and dealing with complex trauma. The trauma is the direct result of cruelty experienced at the hands of a woman, my mother. Her mother did even far worse things to her. Yes, women can do some nasty things.
wanttodie2, if “hates men” means you will never be intimate with one you could be saving yourself a ton of grief. I estimate at least 20% of men are not mentally fit for intimacy. As a guy who has listened to a lot of painful revelations by women who have been hurt mentally and physically by men, I dare say a woman does well to tread carefully and knowingly into the male arena, or not all at. Here is what is sad: sometimes a woman gives complete and unjustified trust to a man and then he hurts her. Bad bad stuff.
I don’t feel like most people are really fit for intimacy 🙁
Intimacy is hard and scary.
Agreed. By 20% not fit I just meant those men who would mentally or physically harm a woman. My experience gives me the notion that at least half the population do not have the relationship skills to find and maintain intimacy that will be healthy for them and their partner.
It works both ways, I’ve tried to give the benefit of the doubt after a bad relationship and have been shafted, I still think like that but I’m more careful then ever. Older people been burnt so many times it’s sticks in their heads.
I’ve never even really tried a relationship I just know it’d be horrid :/
Well I hate to sound negative but I’ve had a few that were horrid! So you might be right.