so i recently made a new online friend. but im concerned that theyre too much of a friend. not in a creepy concerning way but, oh idk, im probably hopefully overreacting. is it over reacting if they think about you? i can never just have a friend can i? why does everything always have to be complicated? im probably better off without friends…
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I used to think friends were a weakness and my depression will bring them down with me. But then I found out they are my strength. Pretty sure they’re the only reason I’m still alive. So yes you’re over reacting. Unless this “friend” is crazy then I suggest to be cautious.
Also, to add onto Jack, don’t feel like you don’t deserve friends. Wanting to socialize isn’t selfish. Don’t feel guilty about the fact someone likes your company.
They seem to like my company too much. As in ‘not a friend’, ‘more then a friend’.
Its online so it can only go so far but just having a normal friend that likes me for me without going too far with it emotionally would be nice. But it never seems to be that way.
That sucks. People always complain of having unrequited love but being on the receiving end is just as bad, if not worse. I don’t have a lot of advice, except wait to see how it turns out I guess. Also, remember your boundaries and don’t be afraid to say no if you’re uncomfortable. Hope it all works out.
Thats the complicated part. Im reiprocating. I know i am. I also know my boundries and im sure they would accept them but im also scared that by saying no it will be decided that we’re better off not friends to relieve the tension….hence why im better off without friends.
I wouldn’t worry too much. Online friends don’t count. Unless you actually meet them in person within a year, online friends are more like familiar stalkers. I think you should listen to your instincts, you’re better off without (online) friends. But if you can meet real flesh and blood people, that’s a different ballpark.
I know you might have concerns about a friend, but keep in mind that they wouldn’t write to you for no reason. There’s hundreds of other things they could be doing, but they decide to talk to you instead.
You could really be helping them feel less lonely, or giving them a smile, or just being someone that listens to them.
You sound like my internet friend Matthew. He used to get mad anytime people tried to get outta the friend zone. He was saying hes asexual, but i personally assumed he was married and just wanted to emotionally cheat not physically. But he stopped bein my friend cuz i jokingly hit on him for laughs and it really upset him cuz he only saw me as a friend but he couldnt take my joke. But to be fair he casually flirted sometimes too and wanted my selfies, so i never understood what his real deal was and ill never know. Its the internet, u cant take anything too serious