crazy teenager shit idk

Sadly some people are superficial. I’ve known a few like that in my time. But even if they are sincere, situations can change, people move, they get into relationships, etc.

The key is to try to have a larger pool of friends you can count on. Over time you’ll notice you’ll lose friends for the reasons I’ve mentioned, which is why it’s better to have as many as you can get.

Some people don’t go further than high school, but I found I made long term friends at university. Still you might lose some here and there… now I’m down to a handful, but overall they’re good friends.

Remember nobody’s perfect, you need just people to be there for you when it counts and also to hang out with, like going to movies/dinner, etc.

I’d say give it at least a couple of years till you feel you know someone, even then it’s no guarantee they’re a good person. Some could have mental problems that make them turn against you… or you have a dispute, etc.

It might seem daunting at first, esp. if you’re a shy person. But you do have to get out of your shell, socialize, get to know some new people. Everyone-esp “at the beginning” is looking for new friends also… so they’ll be easier to get to know.

From there you form a core group that you try to stay in touch with and over the years it’ll probably narrow down but hopefully at the end, the ‘great’ people in your life will still be there for you.

You’re fixated on this person because you felt it was originally a good connection but clearly this person is not reliable.

Maybe she heard some rumors about you, maybe she’s a b-tch, you don’t know unless she tells you. She owes you an explanation, but I’ll bet you she couldn’t look you in the face and tell you the real reason.

If she comes running back to you, I’d slam the door on her. Unless she’s genuinely sorry and realized her mistake, people deserve second chances, only if they’re sincere. But not thirds. Also it’s important not to appear desperate (even if you are) because that’s a major turnoff for most people.

Being gay (if you actually are) shouldn’t be the reason-otherwise she wouldn’t have been your friend in the first place.

When I’m not dating someone, I sometimes get fixated thinking about a girlfriend from the past, or someone I had a great connection with once, but it didn’t go further and lament about it.

But then every once in a while I’ll get checked out by a gorgeous young girl, that I was checking out (like today). It’s not something I expect given my age (50), but it’s a great ego-boost, but then I keep myself well and do look younger than my actual age.

So at least I know I can still get their interest and once I’m ready to get back into the dating world, I’ll have a shot with some hottie. I have a lot going on right now, I have to move and deal with other issues in life, so I just don’t have the time to date.

Anyways I hope my advice helps. One last point, as you only have one friend to count on, you’re putting all your eggs in that basket, you need to ‘diversify your risk’ to use some trading terms.

Also I hope you have some decent family members you can count on too…as you get older all your connections become far more valuable. So try to keep people in your life that have great qualities, like integrity, trustworthiness and hopefully they have a heart of gold. I’ve gone on too long as I usually do, so I’ll end it here.