People saying “unaliving” (ex- he tried unaliving himself) instead of “he tried killing himself” or “he tried to commit suicide.”
Anyone else find it super annoying that on some sites, we can’t even say “suicide” or “killing” or “died”? Not just the use of the word “unaliving” but other new made-up words in lieu of suicide words. I mean, changing the word isn’t going to do a goddamn thing about depression and suicide. If people ACTUALLY wanted to help depressed people, they would do it. Simply using different words doesn’t do anything, and it doesn’t change anything.
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Recently I’ve also noticed that youtube blanks out the words ‘suicide’, ‘kill myself’, ‘hang myself’, etc and blanks them out of the subtitles too. Even after you’ve clicked past the mature audience warnings and all that.
idk man, it’s possible that some people are so triggered by those words that it could send them over the edge, and that’s why we have to come up with safer ways of saying it. If that’s the case idgaf, sure we all know what they mean… But if it’s some weird censorship because suicide is to shocking of a concept to discuss aloud, then F them.
My guess is it’s a bit of both but mostly the later, or rather righteous censors pretending they care about triggering people when actually they just want to bury the subject altogether. If you really want to feel marginalized, google the official news guidelines about reporting on suicide. For one, they’re not supposed to report suicides at all, unless it’s a “person of note”. In other words, losers who aren’t famous can have a paupers burial out back. Tons of other censorship rules, they’re basically not allowed to humanize the victim because lordy that would make us feel sympathy and apparently that leads to us killing ourselves.
ah ok, if platforms and sites are actively censoring those words, then ppl are forced to use other words. that is so stupid- taking away those words won’t make the problems disappear. it won’t make depression disappear, it won’t make death disappear. all it does is makes it harder to search for such topics, which i guess is their point, to bury the posts.
Death aversion is what it is, though it has always been with us, it’s spiking for sure.
To me it’s part of the problem of shame and denial. These things don’t actually decrease the object of their obsession. Denying death won’t slow you down dying, neither will being ashamed of that fact make you less vulnerable.
On the other side is death fascination, which I think afflicts most of us who want to die. In these cases the denial of death creates a taboo and a sort of dirty thrill from breaking it. It also isn’t possible to avoid death when it is a certain amount of obvious, which is true for me.
My response to such things is “Memento Mori” remember you will die. I carry a little reminder coin with a reaper on it, and when I find myself facing death denial I touch it, and that helps. If I’m feeling particularly offended/slighted I’ll take it out and show it to people. As if to say; “you and I are mortal, and that’s unavoidable.”
Yes, death aversion, shame and denial. The modern western culture tends to deny death, unlike traditional cultures of the past. If you look at traditional cultures (be it Native American, Asian, African, etc), death wasn’t seen as an awful taboo thing. Aging was not seen as an awful taboo thing- most traditional cultures viewed aging as wisdom, and death as a freeing of the spirit. But in modern culture, we can’t even type the words “death”, “suicide”, “died” or our posts and comments will be removed.
I agree, I think it is desensitizing it for not a good reason. Yes, suicide isn’t something to glamorize but it is certainly not something to cover up and hide either.