I want to get the fuck out of here
I want to get away from everyone
I want to be able to go somewhere GOOD and not have to deal with shitty family who either hates me or doesn’t give af about me.
But that 5M Dollars isn’t just gonna appear (I need about 5M to live for the rest of my life)
It’s fucking stressful not having your own place.
It’s fucking stressful to have constantly argue and fight with family about every goddamn thing.
I just want my own place and to be left alone- A NICE place in a NICE area. Not a dump in a shitty area the size of a closet with thin walls and shitty loud ass neighbors.
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But… would you take the dump in a shitty area to get away from your family? I would… and did… because even if its a dump, it’s still your own space and it’s way easier to deal with shitty neighbours that with shitty family. And it’s just the first step… once you’re away from family and have space to think straight you can figure out how to get a nicer place.
well the dump in a shitty area IS home. i just don’t have the means to live anywhere in the US anymore. i seriously wanted to move to Mexico or to a 3rd world country but since covid, EVERYTHING went up. While it’s still cheap-ER it’s not cheap. And moving overseas takes a lot of effort and i’m not sure I can handle that righ now being so sick and drained.
My problem is, I do not have a suitable place to live in the meantime, like the next 6mo or 12mo until I can get myself to move overseas. Assuming a 3rd world country is the solution, which may or may not be.
idk man, life is fucking hard without enough money to go or live somewhere better.
5 Mil is pretty close to what I’ve said would allow me to fully retire… so I get the urge… at the same time, I’m not destitute. At the moment even though I can’t cash it out, I’m somewhere between $500k and $1 Mil. It’s out there, mostly in my house and my parents. For the first time in my life just talking about the assets in my name, I have a positive net worth, which isn’t nothing, right?
It bugs me sometimes, I’m between one and two deaths from being totally solvent. My wife has life insurance, as do my parents. That amount would pay off all the debt in my life…. but then I’d have to live without them…. not convinced it would be an even trade.
IDK, they’re the reason I’m trying so hard, without people witnessing my decline I’d let myself go a lot more.
Sometimes I think about playing the lottery, but at the same time I’m slowly saving up for stuff. That stuff is assured, calculated out today I’m only $70 from my next goal, which means another two or three weeks and I could hit it.
$200k is the amount I’m dreaming of dropping into my pocket, because it seems more realistic. That’s only four years of netting $50k extra above the cost of keeping me alive. Seems like that’s doable, not easy, but doable.
right, you get it. i was thinking ppl would see 5M and go, wtf, that’s greedy! when you factor in life span and what you’d realistically need to live a decent comfortable enough life, it’s about 5M. or at the bare minimum, 2M. 1M is living in poverty.
People don’t realize just how much it costs to LIVE. And how much we have to pay the pipers. People see 1M and go, that’s a lot! Well it costs 1M just for a middle age person to live very poor till they die. So 1M isn’t enough to have. When you do the full math, you see the grim reality.
I hear you ED, when I was younger I also wanted to get away from my family….but only later on I realized I needed them in my life. Because friends come and go, not many really stick around.
Luckily in my case, my family members weren’t all totally awful, except one of my sister’s who I cannot get along with.
Also when you live alone, there’s no support so if you get injured/sick, then you’re on your own, which is risky. I had some health issues like severe back pain and there’s no way in hell I could manage that alone (until it heals up).
What I’d suggest is if there are people in life you can rely on, then try to hold onto them despite the arguments, which usually get better as you get older. If there’s nobody worth holding onto then ya, it’d make sense to move away from them.
There are parts of the US (from what I’ve seen) where you can buy a beautiful house for a low price. I live in Canada and prices have skyrocketed here, it’s becoming like New York.
If you’re going to live/work overseas you should look into the laws and cost of living, also how much you expect to make.
But yes if your health isn’t great, you’d probably want to fix that first before considering moving far away.
Where I live, $5m would be amazing…but I think I could probably get by on $2m…$1m for house and the rest to survive on if invested right.
Unfortunately we live in a bad socioeconomic system where a handful of people get all the wealth while the rest suffer…if people were in control, then most of it would go to us, to make the lives of individuals better than a few greedy scumbags.
yeah well i lived near some family members for TWO YEARS and NOBODY fucking helped me. i’m being forced to move in with mom and there’s still NOBODY to help me. mom has ISSUES- she’s a hoarder and her apt is disgusting. no extended family member wants to step foot in the house. the bathroom and kitchen are just gross. i will be in room separate from her with a tiny bathroom and “kitchen,” but i’m so fucking worried about the walls and floor having mold/mildew/fungus and catching it bc the house is in terrible fucking condition.
There’s an area of wood floor and wooden steps that fucking need to be replaced bc it’s likely rotting, but it costs money and she doesn’t want to fix it. and family members aren’t pushing for it bc they pushed for other things to be fixed already bc the other things were really awful and needed to be torn out and replaced.
so no, being with family isn’t going to do jack shit for me except make me more fucking insane and angry. they aren’t going to help me. my extended family already told me that- yes they literally said “no one is going to help you except your mom” and mom is 1- old and 2- she’s not mentally sane.
i’m only going there bc i have no where else i can go. but the stench of the place scares the crap out of me. i am deathly afraid of getting mold/mildew/fungus on or in me. i already caught fungus and it’s spread all over my skin. if you get mold in your lungs, you’re fucked. and it’s not like it’s easy to detect or remove once it gets in.
it depends what kind of family you have. maybe yours will take care of you, which is good for you, but mine? fuck, i’d rather have my bottle of death I can drink and end it all when the time comes.
“If there’s nobody worth holding onto then ya, it’d make sense to move away from them.”
Which is what I did at 17. I left and never spoke to family, until I got hit by the car. Even then nobody really helped me. Anyway, if I had money and my health, I wouldn’t move back home. I fucking hate it there. And I’ve been delaying my return back.
Fuck I’m scared of catching mold and fungus. I really am. It’s no joke. I’ve seen documentaries. If it’s a bad strain, you are literally fucked. They’re slow acting but can cause brain damage, heart damage, screw up your respiratory system, basically destroy all your organs, and it’s not like there’s a simple blood test or a chest xray to show you’ve been infected. and it’s slow acting so it’s not immediate. you can breathe that shit in and you’ll never know it’s slowly killing you. it’s a slow but painful decline and death.
i have no support. they’re all shitty. mother is the only one willing to help but she’s got her own agenda and she’s also batshit crazy. and extremely frustrating to deal with.
goddamnit, i wish i had 2M to just go. Yes, like you said invest wisely. the other amount is needed to live on. i wouldn’t necessarily buy a house before i’m sure i know where i want to live. and i haven’t a clue where since i’ve been too poor to leave the US and travel.
but yeah, the 1M, 2M or 5M figure really depends on one’s age. have too little and you’re fucked / stuck.