well, my turn to be debbie downer; you stop feeling. IE, you cease to be. Depression is part of the normal range of emotion. “ordinary” “normal” people ignore it. Why do you think Americans are so fat? Or maybe that’s just me being a cynic.
You can get away from it for awhile, but not entirely, not while you’ve still got a brain. It’s a liability of that organ, and what’s worse the more of it you’ve felt, the better your brain gets at feeling it. It’s adaptive. According to medical science maladaptive, but medical science is kinda…. biased towards capitalistic ends.
It’d be a hell of a lot easier to stop being depressed if you were surrounded by people who valued you, and if you were under less stress. That’s a solutions focused attitude. You’d still have bad days, don’t kid yourself. They’d just be less.
But the only absolute solution is absolute obliteration. I’m in a bloody mood. You’ll still get sick, as long as you have organs….. it’s the organs that are the damn problem. I don’t get why public health authorities don’t get why us depressive folks are just wanting a more lasting solution to THAT.
Dirt never gets depressed. Worst it gets is nutrient deficient, low moisture. Makes the plants, bugs and critters sad, but that’s status quo on this broken world.
“It’d be a hell of a lot easier to stop being depressed if you were surrounded by people who valued you, and if you were under less stress. That’s a solutions focused attitude. You’d still have bad days, don’t kid yourself. They’d just be less.”
>>Oh I know I’d still have depression in the background, but at least then it’d be in the background and not bright and center in the foreground. Yes, I would feel better if I was surrounded by ppl who valued me and if I was under less stress. But it seems I can’t make friends/SO unless I’m under less stress. And I’m all stressed out bc of health issues, money issues, lack of ppl who care, etc. It’s a catch 22. Can’t get one without the other but can’t get the other without the one. -_-
it’s not a linear roadmap, from where you are to where you want to be. If it were, you’d be well on your way out, I’m certain of it. I just keep saying, I was sicker, I was so much more alone. Maybe not the same as your situation, but much much worse than I am now.
and I just did whatever. Therapy, support groups, doctors, the works. Not all of it helped.
I keep going to the metaphor of the sinking ship, and bailing water, and every few months I’d notice there was a bit less water to bail. After a few years I noticed I was getting less wet. Now my life almost works, it almost has a fricken direction. How did that happen? I don’t know. TBH, still bailing water, still trying to figure out my way forward. But momentum, it picks up.
so, and I’m sure I’ve said it before, what can you do to feel even somewhat like you’re moving in a direction. It doesn’t have to be big. Just that it proves it to you, that progress can be made.
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well, my turn to be debbie downer; you stop feeling. IE, you cease to be. Depression is part of the normal range of emotion. “ordinary” “normal” people ignore it. Why do you think Americans are so fat? Or maybe that’s just me being a cynic.
You can get away from it for awhile, but not entirely, not while you’ve still got a brain. It’s a liability of that organ, and what’s worse the more of it you’ve felt, the better your brain gets at feeling it. It’s adaptive. According to medical science maladaptive, but medical science is kinda…. biased towards capitalistic ends.
It’d be a hell of a lot easier to stop being depressed if you were surrounded by people who valued you, and if you were under less stress. That’s a solutions focused attitude. You’d still have bad days, don’t kid yourself. They’d just be less.
But the only absolute solution is absolute obliteration. I’m in a bloody mood. You’ll still get sick, as long as you have organs….. it’s the organs that are the damn problem. I don’t get why public health authorities don’t get why us depressive folks are just wanting a more lasting solution to THAT.
Dirt never gets depressed. Worst it gets is nutrient deficient, low moisture. Makes the plants, bugs and critters sad, but that’s status quo on this broken world.
“It’d be a hell of a lot easier to stop being depressed if you were surrounded by people who valued you, and if you were under less stress. That’s a solutions focused attitude. You’d still have bad days, don’t kid yourself. They’d just be less.”
>>Oh I know I’d still have depression in the background, but at least then it’d be in the background and not bright and center in the foreground. Yes, I would feel better if I was surrounded by ppl who valued me and if I was under less stress. But it seems I can’t make friends/SO unless I’m under less stress. And I’m all stressed out bc of health issues, money issues, lack of ppl who care, etc. It’s a catch 22. Can’t get one without the other but can’t get the other without the one. -_-
it’s not a linear roadmap, from where you are to where you want to be. If it were, you’d be well on your way out, I’m certain of it. I just keep saying, I was sicker, I was so much more alone. Maybe not the same as your situation, but much much worse than I am now.
and I just did whatever. Therapy, support groups, doctors, the works. Not all of it helped.
I keep going to the metaphor of the sinking ship, and bailing water, and every few months I’d notice there was a bit less water to bail. After a few years I noticed I was getting less wet. Now my life almost works, it almost has a fricken direction. How did that happen? I don’t know. TBH, still bailing water, still trying to figure out my way forward. But momentum, it picks up.
so, and I’m sure I’ve said it before, what can you do to feel even somewhat like you’re moving in a direction. It doesn’t have to be big. Just that it proves it to you, that progress can be made.