Does one have to be delusional in order accomplish big goals? Does one have to be delusional in order to succeed in life? And not be mediocre?
Call it confidence, call it over-confidence, call it having ideas of grandeur or being delusional- what have you.
What if we can’t accomplish thing great unless we believe we will?
I hate toxic positivity more than anyone, but… is there SOME truth in “what you believe is what you get?” Or rather what believe wholeheartedly is the MAX that you can achieve?
Say for example say you think the best you can do in life is grind out a 9-5, if you can even find a good offer in this shit economy, then is that the best you can achieve?
vs someone who aims for the stars. Someone who aims for the stars will likely fail and be depressed, but reaching for the stars usually means that person will at climb higher than someone not teaching for the stars, even if most likely failing to do so.
Say you think you can only climb 10 flights of stairs (all at once) before your legs give out. You’ll reach floor 10 and stop.
But say someone is delusional and says “I’ll climb 100 floors!” That person maybe will give up at floor 49, who knows. Or at the very least, climb to floor 20 or something. This person would have climbed double the stairs. Objectively gone higher.
But his/her goal was 100th floor. Having failed miserably, is that person not way more depressed than the person who aimed for floor 10 and hit it?
Sure floor 10 person is mediocre but is more content. Floor 20 person has gone higher up but falls WAY short of the floor 100 goal and is questioning their worth, life, having an existential crises, is depressed af, etc.
For example, when I was younger, I was a scrawny 94 pound 19yo. When I enlisted, NO ONE believed I could ever make it. And I told no one (other than ppl in my unit obviously). But I was determined and I fully believed I could. For some reason, I didn’t have doubt. I had full confidence in myself.
Bc I believed I could, and bc I was super determined, I made it. If I wasn’t “delusional” and had doubts about making it (bc I was so small) I don’t think I would have.
I joined bc I needed to pay for college (no mommy and daddy to help me one single cent).
Ofc in retrospect, I shouldn’t have joined as the military is just the rich using poor ppls lives to enrich them set and to steal other country’s natural resources. But this was many decades ago, before the “Information Age” and before the internet was a thing (computers had just came out a few years prior so not much online then, and ppl weren’t aware of the propaganda).
Anyhow, if I wasn’t “delusional” into thinking with full confidence that I’d make it, I wouldn’t have. The odds were against me as I was very small (94 lbs) and female. And yes, there were a ton of ppl who were there that didn’t make it.
1- So I guess the question is, do we NEED to be delusional and have absolute confidence in ourselves of whatever grandeur goals we have in order to achieve it?
2- And what happens if we’ve lost our self-confidence?
I hate to parrot the “you can only achieve what your mind believes you can achieve” crap bc there’s tons of delusional and overconfident mf’ers out there who have thoughts of grandeur who haven’t accomplished jack shit.
**But I suppose one NEEDS to be delusional and have absolute conviction in themselves that they can achieve x, y, z in order to achieve it?
Sadly, due to poor health and AH narcissists who’ve gotten in my head, I no longer have the confidence in myself.
So…am I just fucked then? I haven’t been able to achieve anything since 1- getting sick 2- having been mind fucked by narcissist AH and 3- been severely depressed ever since getting sick and lacking $$$.
I just haven’t been able to “get my shit together” since all that. And lacking money and health is a HUGE fucking obstacle, not just my depression and lack of confidence in myself.
I am someone that wants and NEEDS to achieve something in life in order for me to be happy/satisfied.
In some ways, I envy the lazy mfers with no goals other than to not work and watch Netflix or IG all day bc they’re happy with just that.