If you’re situation is anything like mine has been, it’s because your emotional strength is being tested. You have the strength to recover from your dark places, but it doesn’t take much to send you back there. When a person has faced a lot, that’s normal. There is NOTHING wrong with you. I can’t give any advice that I know for sure will work, but I can suggest that you start figuring out what you need to do to pull yourself out of that state of panic you lapse into. For me, it was acknowledging that I had a good reason to be sad and letting myself cry until I felt better. When I gained the strength, I moved up to taking a few deep breaths, closing my eyes, listening to “Landslide,” and reminding myself that I couldn’t control everything. And when I moved past even that, it was focusing on all of the things I had to be happy about, working out how I would overcome whatever was facing, and imagining how great my life would be once I felt better again. I don’t know if any of that will work for you, but there it is. 🙂
In the end, when you gain the strength, the time will come when you will have to make a decision about what you need to fix in your life and how you’re going to live so that you won’t have to cry anymore. For me, that meant ditching some of my “friends” and doing more things that I found fulfilling. Thanks for letting me talk about how I got over my problems. I can’t wait for the day when it’s your turn. 🙂
There is nothing wrong with you. You are NOT ALONE in the way you feel, and you don’t have to face it like you are. I know it feels like it’s never going to get better, but it will. YOU can make that happen as soon as you want. Be strong.
But, I grew up without one. I had to become the “mentor” to what was left of my family. No one cared for me and truthfully I grew very bitter about it. BUT that is because I was so bitter about it. I missed opportunities. But still I grew up, mentor or no.
But I feel you truly are someone special. And those will great paths have great obstacles in their way. It is what makes the goal so rewarding.
Goodluck Kay-Kay on your journey. You are destined to be.
You are strong Cumma, you took on the role of Guardian when there was no one else, a bittersweet struggle indeed.
Kay Kay, your Mentor searches for you even now.
Reach out to help lines and drop in centers, big bros big sisters, any kind of organization that will put you in touch with more caring adults.
Peace
Thank you all. I guess I’ll have to figure it out on my own for now. I’ve always been the person that people come to for advice, although I personally don’t think I’m good at at, they do. Sos I guess ill have to ask myself to give me advice. Thanks again, I hope I can figure it all out before it becomes to much.
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Are you focusing too much on yourself?
You both looked at my earlier response to a post so I’m sure you can guess what I think the answer is…
Maybe I am. I think to much I believe. But Guardian, I just finished all your posts, how do I find a Mentor? I can’t think of anyone really..
I know how you feel…sorry don’t have much advice for you except to hang in there and you’re not alone.
If you’re situation is anything like mine has been, it’s because your emotional strength is being tested. You have the strength to recover from your dark places, but it doesn’t take much to send you back there. When a person has faced a lot, that’s normal. There is NOTHING wrong with you. I can’t give any advice that I know for sure will work, but I can suggest that you start figuring out what you need to do to pull yourself out of that state of panic you lapse into. For me, it was acknowledging that I had a good reason to be sad and letting myself cry until I felt better. When I gained the strength, I moved up to taking a few deep breaths, closing my eyes, listening to “Landslide,” and reminding myself that I couldn’t control everything. And when I moved past even that, it was focusing on all of the things I had to be happy about, working out how I would overcome whatever was facing, and imagining how great my life would be once I felt better again. I don’t know if any of that will work for you, but there it is. 🙂
In the end, when you gain the strength, the time will come when you will have to make a decision about what you need to fix in your life and how you’re going to live so that you won’t have to cry anymore. For me, that meant ditching some of my “friends” and doing more things that I found fulfilling. Thanks for letting me talk about how I got over my problems. I can’t wait for the day when it’s your turn. 🙂
There is nothing wrong with you. You are NOT ALONE in the way you feel, and you don’t have to face it like you are. I know it feels like it’s never going to get better, but it will. YOU can make that happen as soon as you want. Be strong.
You will find one. I know it.
But, I grew up without one. I had to become the “mentor” to what was left of my family. No one cared for me and truthfully I grew very bitter about it. BUT that is because I was so bitter about it. I missed opportunities. But still I grew up, mentor or no.
But I feel you truly are someone special. And those will great paths have great obstacles in their way. It is what makes the goal so rewarding.
Goodluck Kay-Kay on your journey. You are destined to be.
You are strong Cumma, you took on the role of Guardian when there was no one else, a bittersweet struggle indeed.
Kay Kay, your Mentor searches for you even now.
Reach out to help lines and drop in centers, big bros big sisters, any kind of organization that will put you in touch with more caring adults.
Peace
That happens to me too…. Your not alone. I don’t know why it happens, but it does.
Thank you all. I guess I’ll have to figure it out on my own for now. I’ve always been the person that people come to for advice, although I personally don’t think I’m good at at, they do. Sos I guess ill have to ask myself to give me advice. Thanks again, I hope I can figure it all out before it becomes to much.