eternaldarkness

Hogwash or True?

People have REAL problems- like poverty, health problems, bad jobs, bad bosses, bad coworkers, not being able to afford a good apt in a good neighborhood, etc. But we’re constantly being told by therapists “we just need to change our mentality.” Like isn’t that what DBT and CBT all about? Telling us that the way we think is WRONG, and we just have to think differently so that we’d be happy.

But isn’t that just lying to ourselves? All it does is have the whole world tell us that we are WRONG, and that we must be like robots or good […]

I just realized- EVERYTHING is measured in “household” figures- ALL the data out there- income, mortgage/rent, savings, blah blah. EVERYTHING is measured in household #s. If you’re single, well Fcuk you. And no, you can’t simply divide all the #s in half. Two people living in the same space pays way LESS than a single person for rent/mortgage. Single ppl ALWAYS pay more, for everything. Housing and food are the big ones. Families are more cost-effective when it comes to food, but single ppl have to buy small portions of everything, or eat out, which costs more. […]

bc I am NOT feeling ANY of it… -_-

Was thinking of moving to Mexico bc America is too bloody expensive. But there’s riots now in Mexico where they want Gringos OUT bc Gringos keep moving in and increasing the cost of living for the locals. I mean I see their plight but I need to escape the high costs of USA. I guess technically I’m not a “Gringo” as I am not white, but I’d still be a foreigner, and there’s as much anti-foreigner sentiment there right now as there is anti-foreigner sentiment here in the US.

I would love to try out Hawaii, but Hawaii is expensive AF, so…idk. […]

Ok- so while many people are still capable of having a job and outwardly appearing to have their shit together- how many of those ppl are mentally fucked up / going through shit / or have issues?

Like just reading stuff online where ppl post anonymously either venting or asking for advice- I feel like maybe 2/3 of all ppl have messed up lives and like only 1/3 are normal / have happy lives. I mean, obviously I don’t know the actual percentages but I think WAY more ppl are fucked up than what we think.

Just read an advice post where this guy’s wife named […]

Anybody got anything funny? In need of a laugh…sigh…

Five Finger Death Punch-
This is pretty much how I feel about “democracy”
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A serious question- WHAT exactly is so great about humans?

Seems Like Humans:
-Pollute the Earth (air, water, pesticides, toxins, etc)
-Destroy the Earth (deforestation, global warming, etc)
-Caused the extinction of millions of species of plant, animal, sea creatures
-F*cked up the food supply (pesticides, etc)
-Can’t stop fighting and killing each other over land + natural resources
-The rich control everything and push the masses into living nearly paycheck to paycheck, in crushing poverty/debt, etc
-The masses now live worse than peasants- at least the peasants OWNED LAND back in the day. now, how many other than the rich do? and no, […]

This was, and is, very much a thing in my generation and older generations (ppl over 45yo). Any woman who dared question having children or outright said they didn’t want children were shunned, ostracized, yelled, seen as evil, horrible, unloving, etc. I know the younger generation do not view having children the same- more flexibility and acceptance in thought and divergence now- ie it’s now OK to NOT have children or NOT get married. It was treated like a cardinal sin just a few decades ago when I was a kid if a women said they didn’t want to get married or […]

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What do you guys think?

Lots of Food For Thought- What do you all think?

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https://www.visualcapitalist.com/suicide-in-america-a-closer-look-at-the-statistics
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https://www.visualcapitalist.com/americas-happiest-states-in-2024/

Hawaii is ranked #1 at 68.7
-first, it’s kinda sad that 68.7 is THE highest #
-second, it’s pretty sad that 90% of the states score between 40-55%
-only 3 states scored above 60%

I really want to move to HI- BUT- it is super expensive all over HI so…idk.
I’m so tired of being stateside.

@heartless- were you looking into MI or MN? MN shows it being much happier than MI.

From a scale of 1-10, with
1= the worst/crappiest to
10= the best/most awesome

GRRRRRRRRRRR
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“Deaths of Despair” has more than doubled in the US over the past 20 years. Hell- Look at from 2014-2021 – in only a 7yr span- the rates skyrocketed. WTF happened in 2014?

I mean on the one hand- depression has FINALLY gotten more attention- and bc so many more “normal” ppl are getting it now, the stigma- while still very much there- isn’t as bad as it was 10 years ago, or 20 years ago, or 30 years ago. The stigma with depression was as bad as say someone being gay back in the 80s. The stigma decreased a lot […]

Me- some unopened drinks and frozen bacon from 6/24. Yes, a whole year ago lol
You?

What percent of America is depressed?

“Approximately 8.3% of U.S. adults experience a major depressive episode each year. This translates to about 21 million adults. The prevalence of depression is higher in females (10.3%) than males (6.2%). Additionally, depression affects a larger percentage of younger adults aged 18-25 (18.6%).

The prevalence of depression varies by state, with West Virginia having the highest reported prevalence (27.5%) and Hawaii having the lowest (12.7%). Depression is also more common in those with lower incomes, with over 20% of those with family incomes below the poverty level experiencing depression.”

–only 20%?

These are the most depressed states in the U.S.:

1.West Virginia (29%)