The “I just got stabbed butlook he got stabbed by 2 swords, my life ain’t so bad” mentality

Yea in a sense this is true, I also think people should get honest with themselves though. Like there is a sort of inner struggle that is self pity, and I think a lot of people feel victim to circumstances that aren’t that bad.

I feel like those disgusting “guilt” comparisons you’re talking about can be toxic, and can be extremely invalidating to your emotions. I think those arguments could be better and more constructively framed in respects to being gracious for what you’ve got. You can make the debate that poor people, while struggling in a more severe way than others have the ability to show gratitude for the smaller parts of life, while a person with “munniii and a puter.” has never gone without.

There seems to be a duality to everything. I think the only way to be certain you aren’t taking things for granted or showing a lack of gratitude is to have someone you trust to be honest with you, and at the same time you can trust yourself being honest with them, and evaluating your problems with them.

You could perhaps be expressing struggles to assholes, which is an entirely different problem.

I am trying to not assume anything, but playing devil’s advocate a bit, it would be egotistical of me to try to think I understand anything you were talking about with the vague message you left here. I know for me, I find myself lying to myself quite a bit, at least when I look back on certain circumstances and with the rationality of hindsight take an honest approach to the way I was feeling at the time.

It’s so difficult because being supportive boarders on enabling, and on the same token giving tough love boarders on insensitivity, rejection, and invalidation. Life is a personal journey, only you know the truth, but sometimes the truth is buried within layers of self deception, sometimes you’re emotions are completely valid. Ohhh the convoluted nature of emotions, suffering, and “truths”.