This is a question for all of you.
If your friend is a cutter, and so are you, would it be best to: let your friend cut and if they need some more blades, give them some, or try to get your friend to stop even though you have the slightest idea that they will stop..??
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The answer is pretty obvious. Figure out why you’re self harming…when you figure that out, you may be of great service to your friend. Put your pain into something, scream, punch some pillows…like make it an event.
Good luck.
no if thats the case then work together on stopping
Did you misphrase the last part?
If yes; edit please.
Well yea, its obvious.. I want to do the second choice.. But, my friends have told me, when I try to help them stop, that if I were a real friend, they would just except the fact that they want to cut.. I think they forgot the fact, that I cut too..
It’s human nature I think, even if it seems hypocritical. I want to die/kill myself, but if a friend came round and said he wanted that I’d instantly want him not to. It’s easy to accept the fact that you yourself cut, but its hard to accept someone else doing it.
I think as a friend the best thing you can do is offer help but don’t force it on them. Give them alternatives to cutting, thats what my counsellor is doing for me at the moment. I mean, I don’t get the same feeling as I do from cutting but occassionally I’ll do an alternative, one being the other day when I froze some ice cubes and just held onto them real tight, it’s hell painful but if the reason you cut is to feel pain, then it’s great.
It’s hard not to, but just try not to say ‘you have to stop this’ just that if they can find other ways then encourage that.
Thanks..
Help yourself first. It may sound selfish but you can only help them after you’ve set yourself straight.
Mmm.. I only try.
i’m like that, i try and help everyone else all the time and don’t help myself, i think i’ve done that for so long that i find it hard to help myself now. if you can help eachother though, with the same sort of problem, then you’re not doing it alone.