ok so i had this rly great boyfriend we dated 4 almost 7 mths n he always said hed never hurt me but last nite he texted me and told me that we were over and didnt give a explanition 4 it at all he said he never wanted to tlk 2 me agin n tht he didnt care what i did becuz i hurt him. how? i have no idea should i try to tlk 2 him and see if we can work on our relationship or should i just move on?
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Ok … the fact he has not gave you a reason speaks for itself, my ex b/f did the same to me, told me to move out it was not untill 4 months later I found out he was sleeping with my best friend for months before he finished me. This guy is a cowered with something to hide and as he in his head likes to think he is a “good person” and will think he is doing the right thing by hiding the truth from you, aslo those who say “you hurt me” is a little get out clause for them feeling bad its what these people do, turn it around to make them feel better. Belive me I have had 3 b/f that I loved, all 3 cheated on me and when I read your post I could see every lie he is telling you as its all been said to me.
Find out what’s up and if he’s still acting this way move on.
he jts txtd me n said tht it was becuz i made him think i had feelns 4 his best friend which is a total lie hes lettn his best friend ruin our relationship
@Hailey Baby
Hello,
The relationship that you two are leading is clearly inmature, which can be understandible if you are young. Inmature relationship means that there is not a dialog of trust where one can express his feelings, doubts, expectations or frustrations to the other party. Each of you build their own imaginary world of fears or wishes, without the other one knowing. The inevitable result of that is clashes of the sort you are describing.
Then, you being the girl, probably much more mature than him, should grab him to talk and lecture him about the way persons have to communicate. If he is still like a stubborn kid with a runny nose, then the relationship was just thin air. You should read the book “The triangular theory of love” by Robert Sternberg, which will teach years of knowledge.
There is a fundamental problem in love relationships, namely that they are let free for people to engage in, while more frequently than not, neither of the parties has the emotional maturity to engage in it, giving as a result, suffering, jealousy, someone cutting him/herself, and worst than all, scars in the emotional life of the person that ultimately vice and worsen the chances of healthy relationships in the future.
If I had a daughter, I would not let her engage in boyfriend relationships until I have the clear conviction that she is mature enough for that.
So, follow my advice, read that book, and ideally also “The art of loving” by Erich Fromm. Believe me, intelligent people follow my advices.
best greetings
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hes never been very good at telling ppl how he feels but he lives in a very messed up home were the only person he has to talk tois his older sister. he has very bad tust issues because of his family so i think thats why it so hard for to be open with me. but i will most deffiantly read that book thanks a lot