Why can’t suicide be an option? When ever you bring it up people always act like no matter the circumstance it’s not ok. What if someone is so chronicly depressed that treatment doesn’t help? I say only you in the end know what is best for you. What’s wrong with a termanly ill person saving themselves form a slow death? What’s so wrong with an elderly widow ending thier life when they lost thier love of fifty years? There is a million different senarios but answer to suicide can’t always be no. But at the sametime the answer to suicide can not always be yes.
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I’m going to keep my personal opinion to my self, but people have reasons to say suicide isn’t an option. It’s all based off the quote “a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” People seem to think that depression is temporary and what that person’s going through is temporary, which most of the time is true. It’s also the thought of hope. They think based on that tiny bit of hope that things will get better. I mean if every one didn’t believe that at least a little, everyone would be dead.
My father uto always say that suicide is the most selfish of acts. His example being of a father who commits suicide, abandoning his role and responsibility as a father and leaving the kids behind, not only to live without their father, but with the constant feeling that their father didn’t love them enough to stick around. For the longest time I agreed with him. Then my wife of ten years had an affair, my wife who I had married when I was twenty and was everything to me. That sort of stuff happens, people aren’t perfect, but although I had thought I was depressed at earlier times in my life, her infidelity sent me into a place, a true depression, very much like being inside of a burning building, where you will literally do anything to escape. Much like those that jumped off of the World Trade Center, rather than burn alive in a fire of jet fuel. When you feel that way, you haven’t the luxury to be concerned with concepts of selfishness or unselfishness. The only thing that matters is “make it stop”. With that said, at least for now, I have escaped. I am no longer that depressed. Medicine helped me stabilize, although I no longer take it and it was not a long term solution. In the end my suggestion from experience to all those considering suicide would be this….don’t look at a “happy” life as this thing you have that is taken away from you through abuse and mistreatment. I spent the better part of my life feeling like I was entitled to it, but I was not. I could have died a hungry, bloated African child at two years of age. And don’t even trick yourself into thinking that you would have preferred that. If you believe you truly would have please, tell me your story. A “happy” life is something many people, maybe even most people, never ever have. But I am taking a step towards attaining it right
now. I came on this site to sulk, but instead saw other people in pain and decided to say something. Maybe what I’m saying is false, but I might just help someone and if I do, just the thought of having done do, can create enough “happiness” for a lifetime….if I let it.
Religion probably has something to do with it. People think you’re a loser if you step up and make a decision that “God ” was supposed to make for you. Suicide only affects the people still living, not the “victim” who chooses to exit.
People have good intentions. They think if you’re committing suicide obviously there’s something wrong with you & that”s why you have to get talked out of it. You must be insane…..why would anyone choose to end their life if they’re happy, healthy & normal? They wouldn’t. The people you’re asking don’t get it.
By nature, all organisms fight to preserve their own life; it’s in our biology. Depression is an illness; it is a chemical imbalance that is not supposed to occur. People who are not depressed or suicidal thus cannot understand the mentality of a depressed or suicidal person; they can never properly empathize. Healthy-minded people see suicide as a challenge to life; since they like their life and do not understand the depressed mentality, they fear that mentality. This isn’t my mentality, but I’m speaking from a biological standpoint.
I think there IS such a thing as being incurably depressed or in an absolutely hopeless situation, and I do think that does justify suicide. The problem is that even if you are “curably” depressed you FEEL as if you will never get better and have no hope, but that feeling is actually not a fact and often (but not always) wrong. My attitude is that the more others, especially children, would be affected by your suicide, the more you are resoinsible to fight and hold on and try to get better, but there is a point where it’s ok to let go.
Suicide is the most personal decision one can make. I think it should be an option: it’s our life, we should be able to do what we want with it.
(People should not live for anyone else, they should only live for themselves. Of course, if you have a child and you’re an onlyparent, it would be selfish to just leave him/her behind with no one to look after him/her.)
I want to die. My wife of 13 years with whom I have four kids cruely kicked me out in order to get another man in the house. I feel like shit and have made many attempts on my life. I lived for those kids and although I do see them from time to time life is not the same. I find it hard to work and feel like I am falling apart. I have made my mistakes. Probably did not show enough love as I should have done. I was obsessed in making money to move the family forward but failed to see the effect my behaviour was having on my family. I am so depressed and am determined to end it all. I am thinking of a helium bag as this seems the most peaceful option out. I have no friends. All my friends were attached to my wife who is a big gossip who did nothing but put me down when I was suffering from depression. I can’t believe she is now seeing another man and that he is now a father to my kids. I am determined to die and dont want anything more to do with this life. I simply cannot cope with the pain I am facing on a daily basis. It’s tooooo much to bear. Where can I purchase a helium bag? I don’t want judgement. I know I am becomming very ill and that I will eventualy deteriorate. I’ve been suffering like this for two years now and simply cannot go on!!!!
I was married 11 years and my wife filed for divorce before our fourth child’s second month of life. My children are also everything to me. I was also suicidal and lost my job as a university professor mid-semester due to an attempt. Something changed, however. I am happy to be alive. I would be glad to talk to you if you’re still here.
“a permanent solution to a temporary problem.†Since when is cancer ‘temporary”?
another quote you often hear ‘suicide is the most selfish act’ well, what about people who want to keep the person around as a veggie, just because they don’t want to deal with their own pain to ‘miss’ him or her. If they would really care, they would let the person go..
SlaineGardener: Your wife sounds like a total *****, and total understand your devastation. I m not trying to talk you out of it, but all i can is, you seem to be nice guy and deserve better then this.
I agree.
Why isn’t suicide a liable option? I’m not saying it is the best answer, or the best option, but it really is always an option. It shouldn’t always be the answer, but it should be a possible one.
I hate it when people say it will get better, because, while it may in some cases, it probably won’t. Even when the original problem goes away, another one will come, and then another, and then another, until you’re standing in your own grave and you can’t remember who dug the first hole. Depression will never go away from some people. People with bipolar will never truly be rid of depression. They can take medication (that, incidentally, can cause suicidal thoughts as a side effect), they can go to therapy, but it will not get better. It is chemically impossible.
I also agree that depression and suicidal thoughts are not biologically healthy. All organisms will, when it comes down to it, fight for their life. But, your life is your own and you should be able to do what you want with it. After all, suicide is the only thing the government can’t really outlaw. Why shouldn’t suicide be an option for disabled people? For the chronically ill and cancer-ridden? For those with AIDS, or those who are paraplegic? Once I can no longer get around by myself without a wheel-chair or a walker, or even at all, I want a bullet through my skull, thank you.
Therefore, I agree.
Good reason to end it all. If only I had courage but courage is one of the qualities I don’t possess. The thing that has been bugging me is my moderate mental retardation, like everybody else I have dreams and aspirations but I’m cursed cause I am incapable of achieving any of them. I know life is a journey and along this adventure we come across challenges, my challenge at the moment is unemployment, unfortunately there is not much I can do to tackle it due to my shortcoming, I was born poor and it seems it will remain that way till I go six feet under. I aspired to be the one to get my family out of the financial burdens but now I realized I’m a failure and I will forever be a burden to my beloved mother. I wish I was smart enough to find and keep a job, I wish there was something I was good at but I’m just a useless human being. what’s the point of being alive? Should you comment on this please don’t tell me that I’m not retarded because I’ve always known that I am and took an IQ test to confirm it.
I just wanted to say cheers, I liked what you said.