How do you talk to someone you push away? A person that has been through so much and had done everything they can to help you. But, you avoid them,ignore them, and hurt them. How do I talk to them again? Is it too late? Did I loose the people I care because I was being a selfish *****? Because I wanted to be alone but, now I need them more than ever. What do I do?
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No!
No no no.
It is never too late.
If they are great friends, they will always be there no matter what.
Don’t wait for them though.
You need to make the move.
Contact them, tell them what you were going through and tell then you want to pick up the pieces and start over.
Trust me it is never too late.
I wish I could have fixed my relationship with my closest friend before she took her life .
If you’re friends don’t want to start over, then just be happy that you tried.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend…
I feel bad though, I treated my best friend bad, I miss out important days of their lives and I dont know if i should miss more or I dont know. I think it might be awkward…
It’s never too late. Real friends will forgive you and in fact losing you might have hurt them quite a bit. I know that people who have disappeared on me have hurt me so much and although it’d be hard to trust them fully at first, and it might be tense, I would still rather have them back and have them tell me why. Because I could forgive someone with your story easily. It’s the abandonment that’s hard to forgive.
But, how do I start?…I feel like im not fully recover and I’m gonna leave them again. I think their tired of me going through this process in my life…
I only have one friend right now.
Seriously.
I have many acquaintances, but only one true friend.
It’s awkward, I will admit it.
I cut off two of my friends after high school.
I couldn’t stand there drama, but just r recently one of then messaged me.
She thought I hated her.
I messaged right away and told her that I didn’t hate her at all.
We talked a lot and it was just good to know that she now knows I never hated her.
I think you should try to get into contact with your best friend.
I would say write them an email or something.
Phone calls can become super awkward if you haven’t spoke in a while.
Don’t send an awkward “hey”
Send them a message containing things you miss about them.
Why you haven’t talked to them, what’s going on in your life, etc.
Then finish the message with asking them how they are and what they’ve been doing.
And end it with “I’ll understand if you don’t reply to me, but just know that I miss your friendship”
Sorry for typos.
Using my phone :p
im going through somethng similar, i think that its never to late to accept someone [back]into your life , its just the hardest thng to do
@Confused93- Thanks I really appercaite,Your so right… I’m gonna give it a shot. I guess I’m just scared to get hurt or regret it…and what typos?Can’t see any.lol
@idunno- Yeah, I see it from your view too. Thats what i’m scared of, are they gonna accept me back? If you don’t mind me asking, are you trying to accept someone back after they been gone for so long or is it the opposite?
If you’re not ready maybe just explain that. Tell your friend you still care but you’re not in a place where you are much of a friend right now. Be honest. And when you’re ready get in touch. I know I wish I earned the decency of an explanation because I would embrace a friend easily if he or she needed time but it’s the disappearing and no answer that messes things up.
@emptiness7- So to be honest would you forgive a friend if they can back and explain why they disapper with no answer? Is so hard to explain to people what I’m going through, they think they understand but, they make me feel more bad…thats why I just want to be alone…
Yes I would. Because having been abandoned so many times, I know that the lack of explanation hurts the most. And I feel like if I care about a person I’m going to want them in my life even with their flaws.
It’s never too late. The Mumbai Indians have just beaten the Deacan Chargers in the IPL. It went down to the wire and Mumbai needed 3 off the last ball. Sharma smashed it for 6 to win it for the Indians. Very poor bowling by Christian. Even I could have done better. Exciting stuff even without Sachin Tendulkar. So in answer to your question it’s not too late.
@emptiness7 – thanks for your opinion, you got a point.
@Duke of Marmalade- I hope is not too late