I’ve been having problems with , fighting with my mom and boyfriend, and they have caused me to think twice about whether I want to be here anymore. She makes me feel neglected, unwanted and a barrier in her life. She knows she is hurting me but doesn’t care. I have never actually followed through with hurting myself but really put thought into it. With my boyfriend he is CONTROLLING. He thinks I have to be next to him 24-7 and i just can’t do it. We fight constantly and I feel I just can’t get away. HELP?
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Break up with him! And if he poses a threat call the cops. Don’t let your mom hurt you, my mom was the exact same way. I just ignored her and did my own thing. Don’t forget to remind her (Even if she doesn’t listen) that if she continues to neglect you she shall lose a daughter and there will be one less person coming to her funeral when the time comes.
Can’t help with the mom situation.
However, spending 24/7 with your significant other is a recipe for a time bomb.
I know this from experience.
She was attached to my hip and the only life we had, was together.
Eventually everything came crashing down.
It was ugly.
I’ve made the mistake of being a controlling and needy partner in relationships before and really it boils down to self esteem issues, or at least it did for me. I didn’t want to go out and experience the world together and have fun, I wanted someone to live in my depression with me, come watch TV and hang out together every day and ignore the rest of the world. And of course it scared the crap out of me and made me jealous when my girlfriends wanted to go do other things or see other people and thus I became controlling. I ended up single, suicidal, and learning the hard way about the mistakes I kept making in my relationships. I’m not going to be with anyone else until I learn to love myself, and that may never happen. For years I was making these girlfriends responsible for my own happiness, and if they didn’t want to come see me on a certain day it felt like I was being rejected or insulted. Basically I could write pages and pages about this, it is a total mess to be in relationships when you hate yourself and don’t really know how to love someone. If you aren’t happy with this guy you’ll have to end it and he will probably have to learn his lessons the hard way too.
Your boyfriend sounds needy, insecure and co-dependent. Get rid of him!!
Your problem with your mom was very vague. But, as a mom I can tell you that your mom does love you even if she doesn’t show it the way you need her to. If you can’t talk to her about how you feel then try writing her a letter. I can’t promise that she will change but expressing yourself may help you to feel better