What has happened to this place?
It used to be filled with love and support, but now on almost every post there’s hate and rudeness going about.
We’ve got enough of that painful bullshit in the real world don’t we? Why add to the pain we all already have to bare?
Think before you speak. You may have the right to freedom of speech, but it doesn’t mean you have to abuse the given right.
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I totally agree!
It makes people feel even worse when others are rude or hateful.
Please stop!
I agree. Some of the words here gave me flashbacks… Because some people have said similar things to me. Whips lash the body, words lash the soul.
It’s a rising tension is all. That one person is really upsetting me I, and the other post everyone just needs to cool their jets some. I know how hard it is but instead of feeding the fire sometimes you need to just snuff it out to prepare a fresh one. I just honestly want it to stop though. Because I’m feeling upset by the negativity. If it becomes to unsafe I’ll have to go back to journaling.
Yes, profound physical or emotional pain, can drive you to begin to think about killing yourself just to ease that pain, literally trading your life for an end to suffering.
It makes sense that once pushed far enough our bodies and minds seek a final solution, a final exit.
But it also holds true that once we reach the threshold we often reach out to any that can help us, a final act of self preservation. It is for this very reason that help lines exist, to take advantage of our innate need to survive.
We call this confusion over wishing to die while clinging to life Suicidal Ambivalence.
This is what brought us together here.
The important idea here is that even when you may feel that you hate life and that you wish for an early death, suicide is really just the last coping mechanism you may have left.
The more depressed and disordered your thinking, the easier it may be to fall prey to suicidal thoughts.
As your stress and anxiety increase, your need to find relief increases and your usual ways of coping, cutting, meds, drinking, drugs, may not bring relief.
From this perspective, suicide actually makes sense. It really is a quick inexpensive way to stop the unbearable pain of a life scourged by abuse, trauma, torment, and mental illness.
Is it crazy to want to stop your pain?
Is it crazy to want peace?
Is it crazy to feel suicidal?
No.
It is your body and minds most drastic coping strategy, a final exit strategy.
The tragic side to this is that although most suicidal people wish for an end to suffering through death, they probably don’t want to actually be dead.
If you came to this site feeling like your life is over, thinking and planning to kill yourself, wishing for and end to pain and anguish, ask yourself this question:
IF I COULD TRADE MY SUFFERING FOR A PEACEFUL LIFE, AND STAY ALIVE, WOULD I?
You are not crazy.
You deserve a life free of pain.
You can have a life free of suffering.
You do not have to die.
OM SHANTI
Readytofly I was thinking the same thing earlier today 🙁
I agree with all of this. We need to all think positively and foget about the immature people in the group. We are all here to help each other. Cry on each others shoulders. Help bring each other back up from the depths of our minds. Let’s continue to do what we’ve all come to the site to do. Bring each other a little bit of happiness and hope. Stay strong everybody and hold our heads high.
LB
I think everyone needs to back up and remember how vulnerable people are here.a bit of compassion please…
I come on every now and then. I guess I’m reading appreciative posts, lots of ppl are ranting and hurting for sure. Where’s the dawg? He always has something great to say. Cheers!
When things start to get tense, I think people should back away and leave the site for a short time. It’s easy to get sucked into arguing and trying to “prove a point”. But it usually ends up hurting someone. When someone gets angry – just walk away from the computer and go cool off and come back and respond rationally if you ‘need’ to respond at all. That’s the best way to handle it.
Hi Softsoul and GG … I wish I always had something “great” to say … GG is right on target … I guess the only thing I’d add is to remember the golden rule even at your most desperate and dire moments – treat others how you would like to be treated .. even when you’e mad … this is, after all, “just” the interwebs – electrons forming words on a magical screen. i do not like shrimp … I don’t hate or dislike people that do like shrimp … you can say whatever you like about how insane, crazy, weird, goofy, etc. I am … but i will not eat them sam i am
green eggs and dawg