My best friend saw that I was upset. She asked if I was okay as she was walking out of the room to go and sleep.
I told her I was okay, then she asked a few more times, to make sure. So I then told her that I was not okay, and she did nothing about it. She just looked confused and obviously had no idea what to do. So she just said good night and went to sleep.
Isn’t she the best?
-A.C
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She was probably worried about you but didn’t know what to do or say so she left it. I’m sure she does care though 🙂
You can’t really ask for someone to do what you’d like them to do. It helps not to have any expectations even from your best friend. It is what it is
“She just looked confused and obviously had no idea what to do.”
Probably because there was no sincerity behind her questions, just behavior programmed by her family, society, etc.
Most people don’t know how to react or handle other people’s depression.
I talked to a friend of mine about the recent problems and feelings and nightmares I’ve been having; she didn’t ignore it, technically. She yelled at me for feeling this way, and many other things were said (not bad, but melancholy and confused). As Black Swan said, a lot of people are unsure as to how to react towards close ones who suddenly show their depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, grief, the works. They care about you, but they don’t know the right answer (the real answer is that there is no one right answer).
I understand. But some answer would have been fine instead of complete silence.
Thanks for sharing that, I really appreciate it.