My good friend hanged herself last weeks in the woods after a battle with depression. I need to know if she suffered. From what I know she stood on a chair about 1 foot off ground and hanged via basic rope from a DIY store attached to a tree.
I just hope she didn’t suffer for long. Please be honest if you know I just need closure. If anyone can help with what it would of felt like, time it took to pas out/die etc I would be appreciated.
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im sorry i really cant help… dont know anything about hanging only that it isnt my choice.
Some people actually asphyxiate themselves for pleasure and end up accidentally hanging themselves to death. When the level of oxygen to your brain decreases a certain amount it can make you high and can actually feel really good. The most painful thing about a hanging is when people jump from the tree and snap their neck when they reach the end of a rope. Your friend didn’t experience this because it sounds like she just kicked the chair away after she tied the rope. I can’t promise you anything but it doesn’t sound like she would have suffered very much to me.
Only you will be able to give yourself the gift of closure.
Some things are best not imagined.
If you can allow your friend the peace she was seeking for by being at peace yourself while you remember her
I’m sorry for your loss
Read this thread, it will help you:
http://www.suicidediscussionboard.com/viewtopic.php?f=19&t=881&sid=5bb95c3bf8d590c28bed9c704ab0a502
JordanStoddart,
her suffering is over now! no need to think about that 🙁
I’m sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace. My guess is that she was gasping for air as she took her final breaths. Our bodies are programmed to survive.
she likely passed out from lack of oxygen long before actual death – and suffering is relative – what you consider “suffering”, she likely welcomed gladly as this was her decision and goal to end. My condolences for your loss – as others have said – celebrate her life.
dawg
It depends on the situation really. She probably found it worthwhile knowing she’d find peace. She could have choked as the rope strangled her, but then would have passed out before she could change her mind anyway.
Believe me I know someone who hanged himself and after something like ten or eleven years I still can’t handle that so I just put it out of my mind. It doesn’t mean I don’t understand his need for suicide, it’s just hard cos he’s gone. Sometimes I think of making myself a noose but I get too scared of what pain I might experience.