I don’t mean to sound whiny, but I hate living on this planet. I want to disappear and never come back because I wasn’t meant to be here. I fantasize about suicide often, and recently have had an urge to begin planning. I’m homosexual. I’ve realized that’s never going to change. I’ve known since I was 7. So here I am, 17 years old and realize now that I’ll have to spend the rest of my life hiding and lying to the people I love about who I am, and never be accepted or feel like I belong in this world because of my sexuality. Either that, or I could lie and be unhappy…no. I just want to kill myself. That’s it. I think about it everyday, how nice it will be when I’m gone. No more worries my deep, dark secret will ever jeopardize my security or sense of belonging. And seriously, who wants to spend time around someone as morbid and depressed as me? I have no friends. No one to talk to about my death wish. To feel hated by so many people for something as visceral as my sexuality is the worst feeling I’ve ever had. I read somewhere nearly a third of all suicides happen among homosexuals and I can’t help but think I’d just be another gay suicide freak statistic. At the same time, no one even knows about me, so the only way people would find out is if I wrote it in a suicide note. It’s like trying to fight against something you know you’ll never conquer or worse yet, wanting something you know you’ll never have. Something I’m constantly reminded of and it’s driving me insane. Hence why I’m here talking about how I want to kill myself. Who does that? Anyway, my problem is insidious as I find myself lying more and more…even though I’m supported financially by my parents, I feel so unsupported because because I’ll never be accepted by them or the world and I’ll always have this terrible, debilitating internal strife and conflict, like a thousand voices yelling at me even though I’m alone in a room.
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even though my own reasons for planning suicide are different than yours, i felt compelled to say something to you.
i am so sorry that you feel this pain. it always bothers me so very much to hear of the intolerance, hatred and abuse (both externally and self inflicted) of people. i have felt the effects of that pain, and it bothers me to such an extreme that people have the capacity for such hurtful and intolerable cruelty.
i wish i could say it will get better… but i don’t know. sometimes it does. sometimes it doesn’t. i personally feel that being true to who you are is always a cause worth living for, and in my case, worth dying for.
again though, it wounds me deeply to know that your heart is so heavy with sorrow, put there for no other reason than fear, ignorance and hatred. no one ever deserves to feel that at the hands of another. especially from those who should love them no matter what.
I’d believe that if you stop thinking about sex so much you’ll realize you’re not gay at all and it should open your mind to better things in life. You can always change that’s what I’m thinking. New year, new me, and anything I want to be.
…and even here on this site, it continues to be a problem. i guess the internet is just as much as painful as the real world.
i am so sorry. 🙁
I’m sure being gay is still far from being accepted by many people in the world, but it is also more widely accepted than ever. I’m sure there are countless gay people in the world, completely open about it to friends and family, waking up every day to happy lives, not seeing it as such a hopeless curse like you do. Seems you’re almost more ashamed of it than anyone else is ever really going to care if you are gay or straight. You need to accept yourself for it and the rest will follow. You’re not gonna be some outcast. Openly gay people are in all walks of life these days doing perfectly fine…
Well that made me more suicidal, Diadem. “You’re not gay at all” Seriously? I’d though I’d be understood among people who are suicidal too, but even among them people have the audacity to write that type of thing to me.
I’m going to kill myself. I’m so fucking sick of life. I need to get my affairs in order and shit, but I hate living. I’m fucking miserable, unhappy, and see no point in living when there’s no happiness. When will I learn enough is enough?
Hello
By coincidence one of my friends came out of that he was gay last week. I will admit I was shocked but I dont feel any different towards him. He is still my friend and as far as I am conerned nothing has changed. All of our friends have had the same reaction, nothing has changed, we still hang out and have a laugh. Now he is happier than ever.
You dont know how people will react, for my friend it went better than he ever imagioned. We live in the 21 century buddy, young people are not as narrowminded as the older generation.
Come out, worst case senario is your family is not ok with it. So you start over and make new friends. Best case they accept you (which they will) and you can start a life free from lies.
The truth will set you free one way or another.
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Thats the first time I’ve heard someone describe the inner conflict I get but could never quite put into words! ‘Like a thousand voices yelling at me even though I am alone in the room’ .. Does it feel like everthings caving in on you? thats the only way I could ever explain it.
I am bi myself although I do my best to supress it, I sometimes joke about it with my good friends but I’d never tell my mum she would throw me out and never talk to me again! Not saying yours would do the same but mine would, she thinks of it as some kind of desease! The thing that keeps me being more bi curious if you like is that i’ve found in the past bi and gay men generally seem to show more desire in you and we all want to feel desired, so I guess that keeps leading me back.
I think if you are gay then the best thing you can do is get yourself active in the gay scene, because obviously they are certain to accept you and the happiness you get from that should help make up for keeping it a secret from the certain people you feel you need to keep it from.
Gay people in my experiance are extremly accepting and the fact you are depressed pobably wouldnt bother them, get some similar people in your life if you havent already and see if you start feeling better! .. Good luck!
If I was you I would hang out wit nerdy or just open minded people not just other gays or bi s. the amount of gay supporters are rising to
Your biggest problem is not with the straight community it is with the gay community. After many years as a gay man I have never experienced more abuse in my whole life (and i’m someone who has experienced child abuse) than from the gay community itself. So beware, gays are far more abusive than straights by a country mile.
Remember I am a gay man not str8 and i have never had so much abuse and appalling behaviour than what i’ve experienced from gays. It is unparalleled and i am a child abuse victim but no one, repeat no one, has abused me more than gays…no one. No one, particularly from the gay community, wants to acknowledge it cuz its seen as being against the struggle of gays yet gays are THE most abusive people i have ever met…period.
I’s about time gays looked at themselves and realised that much of their suffering is self inflicted. In my country gays are not persecuted…oddly the only persecution i have ever experienced is from gays. So my message is to be aware and very very wary of gays themselves as they’ll do you more harm than any str8 guy could ever do.
Homosexuality is god’s way of insuring that the truly gifted aren’t burdened with children.—Sam Austin
Funny argument you put up there…apparently us gays are born that way so by definition you wouldn’t want to be burdened with a gay child. Makes sense though when i consider what my gay experience has been.
If i had choice between being gay and having three months to live I’d choose three months to live I’d choose three months to live (hey guess what i’ve been diagnosed with cancer so i KNOW what i’m talking about). Gay is THE worst thing you could be bar none. I know cuz i’ve faced death three times and I’m also gay and believe me gay is worse.
@kontinkatink-
Well at least you’re hilarious! Must take some of the sting off the gay, right?
@clevermame.
You have no idea what its like to be continually abused by gay men. I’ve never experienced anything like it and i’ve been sexually abused as a kid and also physically abused by my father…i’ve faced death three time but nothing, repeat nothing, has prepared me for the abuse delivered by gay guys even though i waz helping them. Nothing in my life has been as dreadful as being gay and its not come from the str8 world its come from gays themselves. Horrible, just horrible. Even my own kids have cried at how i’ve been treated. Gay is THE worst. To resistanceisfutile is say be careful, be very very careful who you let into your life and don’t think for one second that gays can’t be the worst ppl you’ll ever meet…cuz they are!
God is this thread actually STILL alive!? lol .. I have a very different experience with gays, well apart from one, who struck me as a bit abusive is his charactor. The others, I dont know if they may of been bi and wether that makes a difference, but they made me feel like I was actually worth something, ie: desireabe. unlike the experience I recieved from most women. Thats not a pop at women btw thats just the experiences I had.
Not all people are the same. that is something to remember