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Hello,

well, I care about what you write and I understand that you may Feel that way. Yet, that does not mean that the fact that you Feel like that is because truly there are reasons for that. So it is your perception.

First of all, being too young as you write is a bless. I would give my balls to be young again, being fat is not an issue because all it takes is to modify the diet and do some exercise, and being ugly, I don’t know if you are a girl or a boy I did not quite get it out of your writing, but whatever your genre, I can assure you that “ugly” girls or boys happen to get always a boyfriend or a girlfriend. It is not so much the look that counts, believe me. The only true put off for people is bad personality. If it is bad and depressing or obnoxious that sends people away but if you have a winning personality you can get your partners like you would not believe it.

regards

What happens “10 days” sorry I don’t know your name is something that is extended not just in high school communities but everywhere, it is a fact in our “modern” capitalistic society.

There are many different aspects in a person, you see, there is the physical appearance, there is the personality as I said, there are material things like money and primary things like sex etc. With regards to the values of the person this is the very frustrating thing:
things that are more profound like the ability to care for others, the sensitivity, the stability etc are not perceived at first sight, whereas things like having a “catchy” character, like people who are laughing and transmit good humor are the ones who get all the girls or all the guys. And the ironical result of that is that it is precisely those who are most valuable as persons the ones who most often are alone in the world, precisely because it takes to be profound, sensitive to appreciate that. And more than that it gets to the annoying point where those who are alone most of the time are regarded as losers precisely by those who are worth less, that is, by the general mass of the population.

Indeed things like money, sex etc are catchy, they are catchy because they are primary, like the need to eat, the need for a roof and walls against the weather and cold etc.

So, the more vulgar, primitive and worthless a person is, the more with “friends” you will see her hanging out with, while the beautiful hearts are often sitting on a bench in the park gazing at the pond or the horizon, thinking or wishing for that loved one.

So what happens then? It happens that those “happy likable” boys and girls are always involved in problematic relationships, they cheat on each other, they are mutually selfish and end up changing partners like every three months. Then, of course, they find their partner for marriage when they decide that they have already had enough fun, only to get divorced after three years and a couple of kids who will pay the consequences of a broken marriage.

On the other side, that solitary person sooner or later will find his / her partner and they enjoy and love each other and remain together for about 50 years.

If we had another kind of society, like ancient Hindi or Asian ones, we would be more devoted to the individual, its values, the importance of family etc, but the worship of the golden calf has made everything turn around the buck, sex and primary satisfactions. This is extended in the Western world like a plague. In South America you can still find more primitive societies in some parts but they are dying out too. The Soviet Union where I lived was also a wonderful society, but today, it is like in the US.

So, believe me, you have reasons to be happy, you are young and full of opportunities to get everything.

Hugs

O