Not me… my mother, becouse my bro killed himself. Like his suicide was not hard enough to take. I have to deal with her all this time. Thanks bro, for kiiling yourself and fucking up my life. Nice one”
*facepalm….I thought we had already talked about this….apparently not….
but you know what I agree with you 100000000% it is soooooooo horrible that you have to be there for your mother in her time of grieving and sorrow….yup that’s the most worst thing ever…supporting your mother in a time of grief….Your brother is so inconsiderate….I bet he spent many many hours planning to fuck up your life because he knew that you’d have to deal with your mother grieving ….what a douche….but his life didn’t matter anyways….its about you and how he fucked up your life ….forget his life…it doesn’t matter now…nope not one bit…. I just can’t believe he would do such a thing to fuck up your life….what a bad person he must have been….
(just in case it flew over your head yes extreme sarcasm was used)
well, he gave up his life. I dont feel sorry for him. Not now, not anymore. He was week and you expect from me to be strong and nobel? My parents sold the house we growp up in, they dont get along at all, couse my mother is constantly crying and beating herself up, blaiming herself for my brothers death. She is depressed and trying to kill herself to. He killed himself and is slowlly killing our mother and she is slowlly killing me and my father… His suicide didnt solve any of his problems.They just vanished, but they were not solved. But he DID create a bunch of new ones… to the people who loved him, while he was alive.
He was a modern child – our parents faild in raising us. We were both uncapable of solving life problems on ourown. I moved away at 18 and learnd about real life on the hard way. He was the yunger brother, the spoiled one, he didnt listen to me, he always “new better” – smart ass… And then I guess thinghs got a bitt rough and insted of getting help, he killed himself. Yes, Im angry with him. HE fucked up and my familiy (crazy but the only one I have) has to clean it up. You still defend him? If you do, you are probablly just like he was. Seek for help and you will solve your problems.
Im fine with his death, Im not fine with what my mother and father are tourning into.
6 months is a mere drop in the ocean. Maybe you should stop expecting to “just get over it,” and shift your energy focus toward trying to learn to effectively cope with something that is going to take years to ease up, but will never completely go away.
By your anger towards your brother I can tell you are also grieving. I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m sorry you feel you are losing your mother but she probably needs your unconditional UNCONDITIONAL love. I can’t imagine the feeling of losing a child but she still has you and you have to remind her that, let her grieve, it will take time, an average person takes a year to grieve. Please understand and don’t think about suicide yourself. Be strong for her and for you. I hope things get better.
SMUSMU try do what you can i lost my brother 3 years ago and it still hurts even though his was natural causes no one expects you to understand why he did it or to condone it but its obvious you love your brother dont lose that love in hatred hate the action not the person im sorry for your familys pain but keep the love man
@smusmu …Jeesh….you would think there would be a little sympathy towards your brother but I guess not….and that’s totally up to you….However….have you learned anything? anything at all? you say your mother is on the verge of trying to kill herself and is depressed …so….my question to you is…..has your brother suicide taught you anything?…..in other words….have you tried to get your mother help? have you talked with your father about getting her help? have you contacted a therapist or counselor? have you done anything at all to reach out to someone who can provide help? or are you just letting her cry day in and day out watching her sink deeper and deeper into the quicksand of depression?…..A drop of proactiveness is better than a gallon of reactiveness every fucking time….
His problems technically were solved because they no longer exist….no matter how he got rid of them he still solved them….I think you told me he was 17 or 16 and I still think he may have made a hasty choice…..however only he knows what he felt and apparently whatever it was had to be strong enough to drive him to suicide….
Maybe he did create new problems …. I’m not denying that….but the question is can those problems be solved? Probably not easily and not quickly but they can be solved…grief is not forever….suicidal deaths can be overcame just like any other death….I’ve seen parents overcome the rape and murder of a small child….so if that can be overcame then suicide can be as well….death is death no matter how it happened…
“our parents faild in raising us. We were both uncapable of solving life problems on our own”…. so maybe just maybe……that had something to do with his suicide? I’m not saying its your mother and father fault but….if you can’t solve 2+2 how can you be expected to answer 4+4?
It isn’t as simple as “seeking help and my problems can be solved” its just not that simple….you think of it as wound-band aid ….and its more like monstrous disease-no cure… I’m not saying depression in general can’t be helped but in some cases things just can’t be fixed….Yes I defend him because if he committed suicide then I can relate to the pain and suffering he felt before he went through with it….it wasn’t easy and it doesn’t make him a coward or weak for doing it….I’ve been back and forth about suicide for 3 years and depressed for 4… it isn’t easy at fucking all…. I’m not endorsing what he did or condoning because I think he should have waited a few years until he was 19 20ish before deciding to make that choice….however I’m not going to condemn him for his choice either….because only he knows what made him do that….and I’m damn sure it wasn’t to personally spite you or your parents….but I mean who knows? maybe it was but I highly doubt it….
You have every right to be angry but as I’ve said before be angry at the cause not the effect….it’s like getting mad at the fact you got an F on a test but didn’t study for it…..don’t be mad that you failed be mad that you didn’t study ….in other words….be mad at the cause of his suicide not at the effect; the suicide……..how does it make sense to be angry at the effect over the cause when the effect was the direct result of the cause? place your anger where it is due…
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*facepalm….I thought we had already talked about this….apparently not….
but you know what I agree with you 100000000% it is soooooooo horrible that you have to be there for your mother in her time of grieving and sorrow….yup that’s the most worst thing ever…supporting your mother in a time of grief….Your brother is so inconsiderate….I bet he spent many many hours planning to fuck up your life because he knew that you’d have to deal with your mother grieving ….what a douche….but his life didn’t matter anyways….its about you and how he fucked up your life ….forget his life…it doesn’t matter now…nope not one bit…. I just can’t believe he would do such a thing to fuck up your life….what a bad person he must have been….
(just in case it flew over your head yes extreme sarcasm was used)
well, he gave up his life. I dont feel sorry for him. Not now, not anymore. He was week and you expect from me to be strong and nobel? My parents sold the house we growp up in, they dont get along at all, couse my mother is constantly crying and beating herself up, blaiming herself for my brothers death. She is depressed and trying to kill herself to. He killed himself and is slowlly killing our mother and she is slowlly killing me and my father… His suicide didnt solve any of his problems.They just vanished, but they were not solved. But he DID create a bunch of new ones… to the people who loved him, while he was alive.
He was a modern child – our parents faild in raising us. We were both uncapable of solving life problems on ourown. I moved away at 18 and learnd about real life on the hard way. He was the yunger brother, the spoiled one, he didnt listen to me, he always “new better” – smart ass… And then I guess thinghs got a bitt rough and insted of getting help, he killed himself. Yes, Im angry with him. HE fucked up and my familiy (crazy but the only one I have) has to clean it up. You still defend him? If you do, you are probablly just like he was. Seek for help and you will solve your problems.
Im fine with his death, Im not fine with what my mother and father are tourning into.
Well said painnlife! I thoroughly enjoy high quity sarcasm!
That should been high quality sarcasm.
6 months is a mere drop in the ocean. Maybe you should stop expecting to “just get over it,” and shift your energy focus toward trying to learn to effectively cope with something that is going to take years to ease up, but will never completely go away.
By your anger towards your brother I can tell you are also grieving. I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m sorry you feel you are losing your mother but she probably needs your unconditional UNCONDITIONAL love. I can’t imagine the feeling of losing a child but she still has you and you have to remind her that, let her grieve, it will take time, an average person takes a year to grieve. Please understand and don’t think about suicide yourself. Be strong for her and for you. I hope things get better.
SMUSMU try do what you can i lost my brother 3 years ago and it still hurts even though his was natural causes no one expects you to understand why he did it or to condone it but its obvious you love your brother dont lose that love in hatred hate the action not the person im sorry for your familys pain but keep the love man
@smusmu …Jeesh….you would think there would be a little sympathy towards your brother but I guess not….and that’s totally up to you….However….have you learned anything? anything at all? you say your mother is on the verge of trying to kill herself and is depressed …so….my question to you is…..has your brother suicide taught you anything?…..in other words….have you tried to get your mother help? have you talked with your father about getting her help? have you contacted a therapist or counselor? have you done anything at all to reach out to someone who can provide help? or are you just letting her cry day in and day out watching her sink deeper and deeper into the quicksand of depression?…..A drop of proactiveness is better than a gallon of reactiveness every fucking time….
His problems technically were solved because they no longer exist….no matter how he got rid of them he still solved them….I think you told me he was 17 or 16 and I still think he may have made a hasty choice…..however only he knows what he felt and apparently whatever it was had to be strong enough to drive him to suicide….
Maybe he did create new problems …. I’m not denying that….but the question is can those problems be solved? Probably not easily and not quickly but they can be solved…grief is not forever….suicidal deaths can be overcame just like any other death….I’ve seen parents overcome the rape and murder of a small child….so if that can be overcame then suicide can be as well….death is death no matter how it happened…
“our parents faild in raising us. We were both uncapable of solving life problems on our own”…. so maybe just maybe……that had something to do with his suicide? I’m not saying its your mother and father fault but….if you can’t solve 2+2 how can you be expected to answer 4+4?
It isn’t as simple as “seeking help and my problems can be solved” its just not that simple….you think of it as wound-band aid ….and its more like monstrous disease-no cure… I’m not saying depression in general can’t be helped but in some cases things just can’t be fixed….Yes I defend him because if he committed suicide then I can relate to the pain and suffering he felt before he went through with it….it wasn’t easy and it doesn’t make him a coward or weak for doing it….I’ve been back and forth about suicide for 3 years and depressed for 4… it isn’t easy at fucking all…. I’m not endorsing what he did or condoning because I think he should have waited a few years until he was 19 20ish before deciding to make that choice….however I’m not going to condemn him for his choice either….because only he knows what made him do that….and I’m damn sure it wasn’t to personally spite you or your parents….but I mean who knows? maybe it was but I highly doubt it….
You have every right to be angry but as I’ve said before be angry at the cause not the effect….it’s like getting mad at the fact you got an F on a test but didn’t study for it…..don’t be mad that you failed be mad that you didn’t study ….in other words….be mad at the cause of his suicide not at the effect; the suicide……..how does it make sense to be angry at the effect over the cause when the effect was the direct result of the cause? place your anger where it is due…