Hun, I don’t think anyone is trying to be ‘an asshole.’ Some people just find it difficult to be optimistic. Don’t take it personally. You’ll encounter both sides of the coin (and those in between) here. I try to be positive when I can but I have my down days as well.
I don’t think ‘assholes’ will care whether you have any sympathy. Life is not a sympathy contest to see who can garner the most. In fact, going around exclaiming that you have no sympathy for certain types of people, might actually prove quite detrimental for you, because they will take it as an insult, despite not even caring whether you have any sympathy for them at all. And, as we all know, an insulted asshole will almost always attempt to make your life difficult.
…plus, if someone is naturally an asshole, even when not trying… i’m inclined to think we should probably pity that individual, since they can’t help being an asshole… or at least can’t help that other people perceive them as such, even when it might not be earned or deserved.
Some people have had very difficult, miserable, traumatic, hopeless lives. Can you really criticize them for being surly and disgruntled? I suppose you ‘can,’ but i don’t think you should, and i don’t think it’s helpful to anyone. Then again, no one is obligated to care about being helpful to anyone… so do whatever you want, but be aware that calling people out, calling people assholes, just because you don’t like something they say or do, doesn’t necessarily make it true, and will most likely gain you more enemies than friends.
It’s just a matter of when people speak their mind without censoring themselves or attempting to speak tactfully. I haven’t noticed any trolls on here in a while. Trolls are legit assholes in that they intentionally try to piss people off. They aren’t angry or upset themselves, they just want to see other people become upset for kicks.
(Note: this is different from harmless joking or lightheartedness.)
I love how youre so understanding. When you speak, you dont tend to offend me. At all. You might say that im wrong, but at the same time reason with me and try to see where im coming from. You could be a really good friend. I appreciate people like you. So thank you.
No problem, Seth. I try to help work through issues and keep the peace around here. 🙂 I know that misunderstandings can happen, and that no one is to blame. Sometimes it is simply a matter of misreading others’ intentions.
You can find my address if you click edit on your post and look to the comments. If you would like to talk about anything, I’m always willing to listen. (:
15 comments
Was it really necessary to make a post telling us you don’t have sympathy for assholes?
Hun, I don’t think anyone is trying to be ‘an asshole.’ Some people just find it difficult to be optimistic. Don’t take it personally. You’ll encounter both sides of the coin (and those in between) here. I try to be positive when I can but I have my down days as well.
I don’t think ‘assholes’ will care whether you have any sympathy. Life is not a sympathy contest to see who can garner the most. In fact, going around exclaiming that you have no sympathy for certain types of people, might actually prove quite detrimental for you, because they will take it as an insult, despite not even caring whether you have any sympathy for them at all. And, as we all know, an insulted asshole will almost always attempt to make your life difficult.
…plus, if someone is naturally an asshole, even when not trying… i’m inclined to think we should probably pity that individual, since they can’t help being an asshole… or at least can’t help that other people perceive them as such, even when it might not be earned or deserved.
Some people have had very difficult, miserable, traumatic, hopeless lives. Can you really criticize them for being surly and disgruntled? I suppose you ‘can,’ but i don’t think you should, and i don’t think it’s helpful to anyone. Then again, no one is obligated to care about being helpful to anyone… so do whatever you want, but be aware that calling people out, calling people assholes, just because you don’t like something they say or do, doesn’t necessarily make it true, and will most likely gain you more enemies than friends.
Assholes are not born that way.
or maybe they are?
It’s just a matter of when people speak their mind without censoring themselves or attempting to speak tactfully. I haven’t noticed any trolls on here in a while. Trolls are legit assholes in that they intentionally try to piss people off. They aren’t angry or upset themselves, they just want to see other people become upset for kicks.
(Note: this is different from harmless joking or lightheartedness.)
I love how youre so understanding. When you speak, you dont tend to offend me. At all. You might say that im wrong, but at the same time reason with me and try to see where im coming from. You could be a really good friend. I appreciate people like you. So thank you.
I know someone “born that way” who cannot sensor before it is spoken due to a mental disability.
sensor anything*
No problem, Seth. I try to help work through issues and keep the peace around here. 🙂 I know that misunderstandings can happen, and that no one is to blame. Sometimes it is simply a matter of misreading others’ intentions.
God. Can you be my therapist? xD
Ok. How much are you willing to pay me per hour?
Hehe. J/k. I’m no professional, but I’m always glad if my words can help others. Feel free to shoot me an email anytime. (:
You can find my address if you click edit on your post and look to the comments. If you would like to talk about anything, I’m always willing to listen. (:
Thanks 🙂