Each time, my heart finds a more inappropriate person to love. Pretty sure one day I’ll end up in love with a cartoon character.
But what I’m telling you now makes no sense and I’m sorry. I love too many people, too much, and I’m just not a very good person. I mean, I don’t cheat physically, but I do it a lot emotionnaly.
Sorry for this confusing post.
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What is “cheating emotionally,” about? I didn’t know people had a fine enough control over their emotions to be guilty for having them. If that was the case, then antidepressants, anxiety meds and therapy would be superfluous, no?
I guess I’m able to be in love with more than one person at a time. I don’t act on it, ’cause it’s not socialy “right”. And it’s not like those people love me back. I have a girlfriend that loves me, but the other ones are not really accessible. Either they’re too young, already in a relationship or not gay at all. It’s like, my heart has a radar of people who can’t possibly love me, and then he falls stupidly in love and hope it happens anyway.
And yeah, I’m the best at feeling guilty for my emotions. Guess I depend too much on others opinion.
Thank you for your answer again ♡
I have a friend with the same problem. Can’t it be just love, though, and not falling in love? There’s nothing wrong with loving people – I’d say that’s a good thing.
Maybe. I get the impression that just love doesn’t hurt and falling in love hurts. So if I feel bad about it and if I know that the other person don’t love me as much as I do, I’m assuming I fell in love, and i think it’s bad.
People are going to rip your heart out and stomp the living crap out of it. Get use to it like I have.
It’s not that you’re not a good person, it’s just that the world is filled with so many bad people that you feel overwhelmed.
yeah, but I love them though. I don’t think they’re bad. They have the right not to love me, but that hurts, you know..
It almost seems like you go for people who you think don’t like you or don’t have a chance with but when you win them over or they start talking to you or whatever…. you’re not “in love” with them any more. Just a theory.
Good theory. But I think I never get to the point where I trust they love me. But I didn’t get enough of them to love me to be sure about that.
I know I tend to seek a new person when the one I “love” become distant. And I know they always seem to want me more when I move on. But the word “want” is strong here, cause they’re really not “in love” with me, but I guess they do “love” me.
Or maybe they just wanted you in the first place? lol. Your brain is giving you the wrong messages
Oh well, maybe lol. Damn you brain.
You are not the only one, it happens. Even if you are in a happy relationship you can get attached to someone who gives you something you are not getting on your relationship, and you might never act up on it, but the feeling is still there.
And maybe i’m wrong but i’ve always assumed that when things get a bit colder and people get distant they eventually just start looking the other way (it’s what i’ve seen at least, i tend to try to work things out when that happens). I guess i don’t have a good concept of most people, lol.
Egh…I keep ending up with the wrong person too…given up really. I guess I try too hard to find someone to share my life with.
I don’t think you are “emotionally cheating” on anyone… There is a difference between being in love and loving someone and it’s important to note I am not talking about “Love interest” or “Sexual relationships”…it is called Platonic Love. You are bound to the person you are In love with…but that is not the same as showing love toward another. In fact, a friendship where there is love instead of just mutual interests is one as rare and precious as diamonds and jewels. True, it can cause jellousy as the person you are in love with, might misread it…and it swings both ways.
Without sounding like WIG and without inciting a religious discussion…love is after all the biggest and most important commandment.
Yes, this kind of “love” is often misread and can cause jealousy from those we are in love with…and we have to be wary of it that we ourselves don’t fall in that trap.
gads…I just repeated my self there doh ><
Thank you a lot for your answers everyone. It’s good to see that some people don’t judge me for that. I just feel really bad right now, cause i put energy on people that won’t love me for sure, and I end up getting hurt. It’s not their fault, I just love them too much for what they expect from a friendship.
I just never learned what is love really. I didn’t grow up with affection, so now than I’m an adult, I’m easily confused.
Today, I was starting to realize that maybe I want too much attention from a specific friend, and then I told myself I would back off a bit and I was ok with that even if that hurts a little. And right now, she just started to talk to me. She initiated it ! it’s ALWAYS like this. Always.
Anyway, you really helped making me feel less guilty people. Thank you, really.
I’m gonna be TheGlassChild now if some want to keep track. ♥