Hm . . . Interesting. Maybe yes. Maybe no. To me, reading a love story (or maybe any story in general) just gives me different views. In the end, of course, the relationships are the right kind. It goes two ways: Each partner is loyal to each-other, each one has good communication, they are dedicated, and especially for a book or so, the love is very strong until their last days. That is what I would look for in a relationship. As for being currently in one, and then reading a story and deciding that is what I wanted instead of what I had, I would not do that. Because you have to realize that in those stories, sometimes they fight to create that powerful love. I know that in some stories, like the Notebook for example, Noah has to fight for the love. I mean, look at their relationship at first, when he first approaches her by climbing the Ferris wheel (hehe), she has no interest and a mild dislike for him. But Noah keeps trying and trying, eventually it brings out all the little parts of a strong relationship. If I read an inspiring story, I wouldn’t dump the guy next to me.
Actually, I was dating a guy when I first started reading Nicholas Sparks, so all during that time I was reading these epic love stories and here I am just me and an average relationship. It ruined it a bit for me. But then I noticed, they weren’t anything more then what we see daily. Safe Haven: running away from abusive husband and falling in love with a nice guy. The Notebook: Falling in with a girl, having her be taken away, then getting her back. (infamous for them taking their last breath together). The Longest Ride: City girl goes to small town college and meets country boy. Dear John: Relationship falling apart in result of the man having to be gone all the time for military. A Walk To Remember: High school romance of a popular hot guy falling in love with a ‘lesser’ girl. Then marries her knowing she will die in four years from cancer.
There are so many different love stories, I think we just have to find one within ourselves, within our own lives. We shouldn’t compare one relationship to the next. All that matters, I think, is that basic loyalty and dedication of strong love that we see in the stories.
By the way, ‘The Fault in Our Stars’ would be a love story I would like to be in, I mean, they throw eggs at sports cars. 🙂 You mentioned love stories, so I had to use them for an example.
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Hm . . . Interesting. Maybe yes. Maybe no. To me, reading a love story (or maybe any story in general) just gives me different views. In the end, of course, the relationships are the right kind. It goes two ways: Each partner is loyal to each-other, each one has good communication, they are dedicated, and especially for a book or so, the love is very strong until their last days. That is what I would look for in a relationship. As for being currently in one, and then reading a story and deciding that is what I wanted instead of what I had, I would not do that. Because you have to realize that in those stories, sometimes they fight to create that powerful love. I know that in some stories, like the Notebook for example, Noah has to fight for the love. I mean, look at their relationship at first, when he first approaches her by climbing the Ferris wheel (hehe), she has no interest and a mild dislike for him. But Noah keeps trying and trying, eventually it brings out all the little parts of a strong relationship. If I read an inspiring story, I wouldn’t dump the guy next to me.
Actually, I was dating a guy when I first started reading Nicholas Sparks, so all during that time I was reading these epic love stories and here I am just me and an average relationship. It ruined it a bit for me. But then I noticed, they weren’t anything more then what we see daily. Safe Haven: running away from abusive husband and falling in love with a nice guy. The Notebook: Falling in with a girl, having her be taken away, then getting her back. (infamous for them taking their last breath together). The Longest Ride: City girl goes to small town college and meets country boy. Dear John: Relationship falling apart in result of the man having to be gone all the time for military. A Walk To Remember: High school romance of a popular hot guy falling in love with a ‘lesser’ girl. Then marries her knowing she will die in four years from cancer.
There are so many different love stories, I think we just have to find one within ourselves, within our own lives. We shouldn’t compare one relationship to the next. All that matters, I think, is that basic loyalty and dedication of strong love that we see in the stories.
By the way, ‘The Fault in Our Stars’ would be a love story I would like to be in, I mean, they throw eggs at sports cars. 🙂 You mentioned love stories, so I had to use them for an example.
Yes and no
all action comes from thought, and most thought is affected by the influences of the information to which we are exposed.
So… Can it? Yes. Should it? No.
Yes, just take into account the lessons learned in the story.
For some, it definitely can. We get “steering currents” from a variety of sources… works of fiction and non-fiction included.