you know how you try to say one thing, but mess up on saying it (or in my case, typing it) and the person who hears it (reads it) gets offended because of what you said? yeah, there now. I already feel bad enough that they took it the wrong way, now he’s calling me an “evil bitchass **** who enjoys his pain”. I don’t even enjoy MY pain. now I feel like shit, just when today wasn’t too bad
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We all do it… Sometimes what we say or type is markedly different from what we meant to communicate. It happens. Life goes on. If somebody doesn’t understand, then you might not need them around you. It’s petty for them to have a problem with a mistake… and to take it a step further by being mean to you and not giving you the proper chance to clarify your comment.
You’re not stupid… Someone else? Yes.
I tried to explain. All I said was I didn’t want him (my ex btw) working at the service desk with me, and i told him it was because i’m happy there, and feel useful. and he took it the wrong way. what i didn’t add is that it’s a stressful job, and shitty pay, and he’d freak out on day one because customers can be real dicks if you don’t do something perfect for them on your first try. I know I’m a ****, I know I’m a dick, I know I’m better off dead, but ironically enough, i don’t want to die. so I’m stuck with getting his hateful messages because facebook has some stupid policy that I can’t block him after unblocking him for 48 hours, and i only unblocked him because he called me and said he was afraid he’d hurt himself and wouldnt reply to my messages.
That Facebook policy is stupid… I’ve run into problems with it myself. My new policy is that I unblock nobody. Period. I make an exception if the friendship re-develops and seems stable… but that’s rare. Most of the time, I just unfriend so their messages go to my “Other” folder. Facebook doesn’t give “Other” messages a “new” flag… so those messages typically sit there for weeks until I check that folder. If it gets horrible, I believe that you can flag messages.
As for what you said, it’s really not your problem. If you say something in error, and you sincerely attempt to clarify, and you’re attempt is stopped… then you’ve done all you could. You can’t force other people to behave civilly or do the right thing… so life goes on. Nobody should expect you to be perfect and always say the right thing. If they do, then they need to look in the mirror at their own imperfections.
You’re none of what you stated… If people put you down, it’s their own weakness coming through. I’m sure that you’re better than that.
Don’t beat yourself over his name calling. Hurling profanities like that is the ultimate display of insecurities and frustration. And THAT is HIS problem, not yours.
Explaining yourself won’t change anything, because the problem is not in anything you said or didn’t say. See this for what it is, and deny this guy the ability to take his problems out on you.