Hi, i’m new here and i don’t come from english-country so please excuse me language.. i don’t really know why i registerd here.. i found this website by accident. I’m thinking about suicide every day and in every minute.. A was really close many times. I think that i’m not here beacuse i want or need help. Maybe i just want to find out if anybody is coming through the same problems as me.
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So many people can relate to you and understand how you feel. People you’d have no idea was suicidal because they are so “happy” as far as anyone can tell.
You are not alone… but you can start by telling us why you feel this way.
The most of people that i know are so primivite, only thing they do is talking bad about other people, gossiping; they dont care about problems of this world.. the most important for them is look, money.. i though they are my friends – but how can they be friends if i can even trust them? i stoped talking to them. i have never meet yet person which understands me or has ever been in situation like mine.. im also really scared of being hurt (psysicly and mentaly) by others. thats why i stoped showing emotions. I dont believe anymore that i will be happy again.
If you feel like you want to make a difference in the world and be around like minded, caring people (and get away from whatever situation is making you so lonely) maybe there is something similar to the peace corps in your country.
What country are you from anyhow?
You are not alone at all. Hang in there
im scared that if i tell you where i come from ill be judge because of this – i dont think others have good opinion about it. its a european one.
could you tell me what mean words ‘hang in there’? i dont understand
no one chooses the location of their own birth.
unfortunaly.. i come from Poland.
i don’t even know anything about Poland, except that it exists, and people make jokes for whatever reason.
I don’t think anyone here will give you a hard time about being from Poland… and if someone does, then you probably shouldn’t value their opinion.
In my country i havent meet anyone who understands me or unliss tries not to gossip, talking bad etc.. i dont know if all community is like this or maybe i just dont have luck to people?
Anyway.. maybe its time to solve all my problems and leave this world? im thinking about this all time
Oh, it’s like that everywhere. No doubt. Most people are stupid, it’s just something you have to learn to accept in life, unfortunately. I don’t know why you think we would judge you for being from a non-English speaking country. People are people, it doesn’t matter what language they speak, or what slab of land they happened to be born on. Our problems are the same.
So that means that the whole world ist like this. Actually this only makes me feel worse. I dont want to be rude but has anybody ever felt something like this? And what are you struggling with? Ive never meet anybody depressed or feeling this bad way
@justnormalgirl:
“I dont want to be rude but has anybody ever felt something like this?”
Yes. That’s how i feel most of the time. I hate my environment, but then i look around at the rest of the world and see most of the same problems everywhere else too. So, even if i could escape my current environment… where could i go?
People are people everywhere, regardless of language or nationality.
What i’ve seen is that people who feel these ways, either don’t go out and meet new people very often, or when they do, they try not to show how depressed they are… so maybe you have met someone who was so depressed, but just didn’t realize, because they were afraid to let you see it.
Maybe you are right. Before i get depressed i havent think about how many people are struggling with this.
I have no reason to dislike Poland… or any person just because they are from a certain country. You might find the opposite. I think it’s cool you live in Poland and I want to hear more about it.
You will find those issues in every country but not in every group of people. You just have to find the right group. Don’t end your life because a group of friends are being stupid. There’s another group that is missing you but they don’t know it yet!
You came to the right spot. Everybody here deals with depression and suicidal thoughts. Most are really nice and supportive, some will give you the ‘tough love’ that you might need.
Hang in there means don’t let go. Keep trying and don’t give up. Please don’t do anything hasty. Death might be inviting but there is no turning back.
Well, I like to be truthful, and often times the truth hurts. The whole world is like that, yes. But there are people out there, hidden and scattered, who are not. Finding them is the hard part…but if you can, they make it all worth it.
Has anybody felt something like what you are feeling? Of course, that’s why sites like this exist and are so populated. You’re not alone.
What am I struggling with personally? Loneliness, repeated failures, a general sense of pointlessness, a couple of medical issues….pretty average, really. And, as you brought up, I don’t like the way people operate, the things people value.
Like toxicluminoth said, don’t make these decisions too quickly. Give yourself plenty of time.
I would really want to meet new, another people but im so so afraid of being hurt or meeting bad people
I think a good start on solving that, would be an understanding of the Buddhist approach to attachment, and developing a good set of heuristics, so you can easily and reliably distinguish between people you want to know, and people you don’t want to know.
@river:
eh… i gotta rebut this:
“Finding them is the hard part…but if you can, they make it all worth it.”
I’m not sure i agree with that. I don’t think there is a “the” hard part, and i don’t think simply finding people “like that,” is the hardest part.
One thing that complicates this process, is how there are loads of people who CLAIM they want someone like whatever certain thing, or PORTRAY themselves as being “like that,” but in fact, are merely wearing what they believe is a beneficial disguise… and neither are they, themselves, “like that,” nor are they actually looking for someone “like that,” as what they claim.
THIS is the hard part. You have to find prospects first, but then you have to understand how to scrutinize them, and how to identify which of them is actually who they say they are, and who is rather someone else… and further, which of them does so intentionally, versus subconsciously, as this defines the difference between incompetence and malice.
Always assume that when meeting a slew of new people, or even just a few, it is very likely that many of them will not be what you want to find… but sorting through as many as it takes, is what is required, to find the ones you’re looking for. You’re going to meet “bad” people… but you don’t have to attach to them, and you don’t have to install them as a fixture in your life. As soon as you decide someone isn’t a person you want to continue knowing, you can simply disregard them… unless they try to impose their presence upon you, at which point it becomes a survival game, where you have to be willing to do whatever is necessary, to preserve yourself, your health and well-being, and eliminate that person’s detrimental potential from your vicinity.
The reason people keep searching for the right ones, is because it is indeed worth all the hassle, if you do actually find those right ones. But it’s the time and effort prior to that, which feels not worth it, because it’s all hassle and no rewards, until you find what you’re looking for, which may or may not even exist, for you. But the only way you’ll know it exists, is if you keep looking and end up finding it.
Sounds like death isn’t the answer for you. A change in scenery / finding new people is your best bet. Get rid of the ones who make you feel this way.
Like I said… people on here are typically good people who understand. Pour your heart out. You’ll feel better.
Friendships and relationships are a risky business. Sometimes you’ve just gotta take those risks though. You might get hurt, sure, sometimes that’s just part of the game. But you might find some happiness too. If you never take those chances, you’ll just find yourself stuck.
@clevername, You really like dissecting turns of phrase, don’t you? But yes, I agree with most of what you said here. We all have different versions of what people “like that” are. For me, it’s not really something someone could fake, or in some cases even want to. As absurd as that may sound. Still, it’s true you have to be aware of the fact that people are good at pretending, and may not be what they seem.
@river:
“You really like dissecting turns of phrase, don’t you?”
Indeed i do. Should i explain why i both enjoy and feel a duty toward that particular thing? Or is it obvious enough?
The reason i used “like that,” is because the generic person’s definition doesn’t matter. What matters is that people will claim to be whatever they think you want, or claim to want whatever, while actually wanting something else. Doesn’t matter whether you and i define “that” differently, because the pattern remains.
But yes, i love to un-turn any turn of phrase… partly because so many of them are such garbage, and so easily shown to be insufficient for the problems they often are overused to address (and often in a very casually dismissive way).
In fact, this un-turning of countless phrases, is one of the ideas i’ve had for a book. But as with most of my good ideas, it would be a monumental and prohibitively difficult endeavor, and i just don’t think i have what it takes to complete such a thing.
I’ve seen too many people throwing cliches and witticisms around, almost as if using them as an excuse to not have to actually think or pay attention… even sometimes abusively, to trivialize other people’s issues/problems/experiences… as if to “come off as” wise or superior, when in fact, they are anything but.
I wasn’t criticizing you for it.
“What matters is that people will claim to be whatever they think you want, or claim to want whatever, while actually wanting something else. Doesn’t matter whether you and i define “that†differently, because the pattern remains”
As I said, this is something you have to be aware of, yes. But for me it hardly matters. Except for those times when it does…but I find that those times are rare.
“I wasn’t criticizing you for it.”
Good. I dislike being criticized for the few things i actually enjoy. I was: “not sure if criticism or mere observation…”
But… what do you mean “it hardly matters?”
For me it does. I don’t want to become attached to a pretender who is full of shit. I suppose it “hardly matters,” for me, because i never get the chance either way… but it does matter, if or when any prospect is evaluated and scrutinized.
Nah, I don’t think you can be blamed for taking things we say to their logical conclusions, and batting them aside if those conclusions make no sense. Something we should all practice a bit more, probably.
“I suppose it “hardly matters,†for me, because i never get the chance either way”
This is part of what I meant, to an extent at least. But also, like I said I just don’t think that most of the things I look for are “faked” to the point where it becomes a serious problem. I know that sounds absurd, and that people can fake just about anything. And I’m not saying it can’t happen, or that it is not a possible concern. But it’s not something I see as a primary limiting factor.
Justnormalgirl, I just spent some time wit a bunch of polish and Russians, these were some great guys. Granted in the big picture these nationalities do not care for each other, but in a small personal scale they were friendly and helpful with each other. There are real good people in Poland I can say in all honesty. Like the rest off the world you do have to search them out or have then run into you while you get out and live life. You will meet many that will try and lead you astray and may hurt you. However, finding a true ” friend” (I can not say that word in polish for all I am worth) is rewarding.
OnlyLOVEisreal, somewhere deep in my heart i believe that there is someone on this world, who 100% understands and its like me. But finding this person is so hard.. Ive meet a lot of different People in my life – unfortunaly no one was even close.. Sometimes i just want to give up.