I feel hurt, angry, a little frightened. One of my best male friends moved in with me and a few other people back in the fall, and we’ve been close. Though, I’ve gotten noticeably more depressed. I didn’t figure out why until today. For our entire friendship, my friend has been trying to get romantically involved with me, regardless of whether I’m with someone or not. Because I’m too stupid and trusting, I had no idea. He’s aware of the fact that I’ve been in a few physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive relationships, and has apparently been using manipulative tactics on me. I didn’t realize it until I had a few drinks with my other longtime friend. I confronted him today, and we got into a huge argument where I recognized exactly how he’s been manipulating my sympathies. I called him out, he said he was going to kill himself, and drove off.
I also found out that he’s been sneaking into my room in the morning and watching me sleep, a few of my roommates have seen it happen and called him out. And they said he has pictures of me on his phone I don’t know about. And I have to live with him, provided he lives.
I don’t want him dead but I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of hearing from me.
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What a *****.
There seems to be an influx of males who cannot seem to handle either the drink or a confrontation with women. That’s a pretty dirty (read: pathetic) move he pulled on you and yeah you should definitely give him a piece of your mind…if he grows some cojones and lives. My advice? Ditch the sleep creep and find yourself another abode (if it’s a viable option). I knew someone on base who had these sort of ‘tendencies’ but we reported him to the MP’s and the bastard was reprimanded then later discharged due to another incident.
Hut damn, there’s creeps everywhere these days.
I’d say kick him out if he goes back, i don’t think your other roommates wil disagree. His behaviour cannot be justified at this point, and it’s nearing that of a stalker. I mean… he’s supposed to be your friend and he’s acting like a nutcase.
I’m intrigued by the ‘tendencies’, but I won’t force you to extrapolate. xD
I would talk more to people I felt close to about the situation, if I had them anymore, but he’s been slowly and carefully isolating me. Made himself one of my only ‘coping’ resources. I’m really infuriated with myself for not recognizing the pattern before.
You recognise it now and dare I say before it was too late. You now have to think ahead and formulate a plan that benefits you and doesn’t pander to this nuisance. Well, feel free to talk with us on SP. We’d be happy to help you out, and I sympathise with you as I’d mentioned I knew a bastard creeper. This sounds like a movie…but I can’t remember the name of it. I think this one will have an outstanding ending however.