I guess I was destined to be this ugly. In my last post, I mentioned wanting to punch my mirror into a bunch of tiny pieces. Part of that has to do with how unbearably ugly I feel. In my opinion, I look like a monkey. My ex called me a trap, which is a term for Tran people who look completely believable as their desired gender. I don’t know. Others say I look cute, gorgeous, like a model, even. I just don’t see it. What do you think?
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In all actuality, your above average looking. You have a very familiar face, i’m trying to place it, but I can’t. You certainly aren’t an ugly duckling, or breaking-the-mirror hideous. I understand from your past why you might have such low self esteem, but don’t let what others have done to you make you devalue yourself.
Thanks, Snuffles! I know that I totally have to have more self-esteem. I’ve never been too confident of myself. It’s something I need to work on. x)
You are nice to look at. 🙂
Thanks! 🙂
What do I think? I think you are not ugly to look at. If I thought you were ugly, I would say so.
Anyhow, what does ugly have to do with things?
it has to do with how I feel about myself. Did you not understand what you read?
“Did you not understand what you read”?
^^Eeeesh.
Hey maybe they simply didn’t catch the point, at least they complimented you. :/
Oh well.
It was an honest question, Koji. I wasn’t trying to be mean. 🙂
Oh I see, I am sorry. I just thought DragonFly may have struck a chord with you but it did not.
I find it rather hard to convey and see emotion in text. Damn internet, makes everyone sound so monotoned. 🙂
You look beautiful.
Thanks! 🙂
Okay, I’m going to get some sleep. Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate it so much! 🙂
You are beautiful. Your face has nice features, your nose is perfect, your hair is flawless, your eyes are perfect, and your smile is adorable. I think your ex needs to go to a eye doctor lol
One always needs to reflect on the context and motives of why someone might say negative things regarding looks/personality. An “ex” is not the type of person to take seriously when they call you names … they are an “ex” for a reason … which means they are at minimum, disappointed, but more likely, the “ex” is “hurt” (usually because they didn’t get their way so it’s really their own fault they are an ex) and in their mind they view you as the reason/source of that hurt/pain so they lash out and attempt to cause equal or greater pain on the person they consider the source of their pain/hurt … in this case, that is you – although you are a very attractive young woman, which was clearly attractive enough for your “ex’ to get together with in the first place … but your “ex” recognized your insecurity regarding your looks and is now exploiting that insecurity to cause you pain and humiliation … Quite possibly as a means to manipulate you to reconsider and get back into a relationship with your “ex”.
Bottom line is, your “ex” has an agenda for saying negative things about you … and for this reason, your greatest weapon is to ignore the “ex” (since it is your attention and possibly your affection that your ex desires most). Even if you do feel insecure about yourself, at least ACT confident when dealing with your “ex” … but don’t be vicious or vindictive … this only lowers you to their level. Quite frankly, when an ex of mine says bad things about me, I completely ignore them and then calmly and carefully point out to those who heard/saw my ex’s behavior how pitiful they are to act so childish and immature and I explain how I “understand they are hurting” but I know they are just lashing out so their statements/accusations are just mudslinging (to say any/everything to see what sticks) to try to hurt me, which I refuse to accept/acknowledge or engage. Don’t fall for it.
The same goes with “friends/acquaintances” … often they will say negative things because they are:
1. Jealous because you have something they don’t (good looks, for example)
2. Friends with your Ex (trying to defend him/her by attacking you)
3. Retaliating for some perceived injustice/sleight
Ignore them too … unless you actually did do something mean to cause them to retaliate – in that case, take responsibility for your improper behavior and apologize (and don’t repeat the bad/negative behavior). We all look how we look – there is little we can do to change it so to make fun of others serves no purpose because it’s not something that can be (easily) changed … to do so can only cause negativity and pain and create ill will so it should be avoided. But when it is directed at us it should be ignored.
reflection dawg