Okay so I’m literally not joking when I’m say: My family is planning my life. No arranged dates or marriages (hopefully never) but they planned which college I’m going to, what my major will be, where I’ll go for grad school, my job my life my EVERYTHING. I never get a word in MY life.
I just wanna do what I wanna do. Sure I might not get well paid, but at least I’ll be happy. I mean, I’ll be spending most of my life doing my job, right? Then shouldn’t it be a job which I’ll be happy doing? I mean, what’s the point in making lots of money if you’re basically hating your life because of your job most of the time?
Can I just….quit? I mean what’s the point in living a life basically like a puppet? Don’t speak, don’t move, just do whatever your told to do. I’m sorry I just can’t live like that.
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You gotta live for you. My mom, though not so overtly and forcefully as your folks, has had so much control over my life and emotions. I am constantly struggling to remember that I am the only one I am truly accountable to and the only one whose decisions really matter, so giving this advice may be a bit hypocritical, but you gotta live for you.
Hopefully you have friends to support you, but even if not right now, you have the right to surround yourself with people who care about you for your own desires. You have the right to tell your family to f*ck off, though it’s probably easier said than done. I wish you strength in recognizing and living YOUR truth.