It appears I’ve come a long way from the post I made in March of this year.
I had broken up with my girlfriend because my family was vehemently against me seeing her. She was a friend-with-benefits of my brother, and they weren’t talking anymore because she felt he wasn’t really interested in being “friends” or having benefits anymore. There was tension, but I had grown to like her very much as I got to know her in the peripheral of their growing apart. My brother and mother were merely disappointed and worried at first, letting me be a grown man and making a choice. But soon they started convincing me that she was manipulative and crazy and that I was just being a “damn fool.” I broke up with her because I thought the doubts they put in me were indicative of me not being ready for a relationship. That was January.
By March I was angry and regretful, wishing I could still talk to her. I tried dating, getting phone numbers, etc. It all seemed fake. It felt like I had unfinished business.
I secretly got back together with her, and my mother still doesn’t know, though my brother found out.
Now, I still wonder if I am worth anything, as I talked about in another post. I am not suicidal, but I still question whether or not a person like me should be in a relationship at all.
2 comments
There are only two oppinions that matter in this situation and thats the two people in the relationship. If you love the girl (or just really like her) and she wants to be with you then what else matters? Just because she was with your brother first dosnt mean you should be miserable. I mean clearly since breaking up you tried to move on and no one was doing it for you the same way she was. Who cares what your mother thinks, or your brother? Lifes too short not to be happy. if being with this girl makes you happy no one has the right to tell you otherwise. You deserve a relationship man, everyone deserves to be with someone else. just because your mother has a problem with her shouldnt really change anything.Life too short man, enjoy it while you can
Exactly what Peace_Love just said. But, I will add, you’re a grown man. You can make your own decisions and so can your girlfriend. If it’s a mistake, then it’s a mistake. And you’ll learn from that. Don’t let others fuck with your head.