Yeah. Okay. I have a thing for roses.
Dear ex who’s name I will not reveal. Lets call him Jeff.
Dear Jeff,
Does love mean practically stalking someone and trying to guilt them into being with you? I’m pretty sure it doesn’t. I attract some Really clingy men and I’m just not an overly affectionate person. I don’t want to stand in the middle of a store and do things that make people question how long it’ll be before we fuck in the middle of an isle. I don’t want to be your only means of gratification and I damn sure don’t want to be the only thing that makes you happy. I want other things to make you happy as well. I want you to be able to smile when I’m not around and have fun with friends instead of blowing them off because you want to be around me 24/7. I have a job, a family, and friends. I care about other people just as much as I care about you. So don’t try to hog all of my attention. Now. I’ve told you once and I won’t tell you again.
Off is the general direction in which you should fornicate. I do not feel the feels that I felt when I was feeling feels. Leave me alone. Please. -_-
Yeah. Maybe I’m not capable of maintaining a serious relationship. But damn. There’s a thin line between loving someone and stalking them. You, my friend, have crossed it.
Sincerely,
Sammi
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Well hopefully you send that letter to him. Unfortunately that clingy stalker bullshit actually seems to work on a lot of girls. Girls are pretty emotional and one of the down sides of being emotional is being open to that kind of emotional manipulation. Girls are also generally less assertive and cave into pressure more easily. Generally guys have a much more aggressive mindset if you want something fight for it and keep fighting and going after it until you get it. Females are usually afraid of confrontation So a guy can usually pressure them into staying in a relationship or getting back into a relationship with that kind of constant aggressive pushing. The more success that guys have with these tactics the more likely they are to keep doing it. Hey if nothing else there is always restraining orders lol
Lol yeah. Its ridiculous. I don’t understand how girls fall for that shit. I’ve always been entirely too set in my ways. Once I make up my mind, there’s no changing it. You can’t convince me to stay. Can’t make me feel guilty. These are things that I’ve told him several times and even now, has acting like I never left him. I thought it was finally over the other day when he acted like he was breaking up with me even though we aren’t and haven’t been together. But no. No. It isn’t over.
He has probably convinced himself that you are just playing hard to get or hard to get back or whatever it would be called in this case. That you are just pushing him away to see how hard he will fight for you to prove how much he loves you or some other ridiculous notion. That you are just being an overly emotional female and you will come around eventually if he just keeps trying long enough. Females never really actually mean “no”. No is just one of those ambiguous words that actually means maybe with just a varying degree of pursuit required to change it into a yes, lol.
haha and him “breaking up” with you was probably just some lame attempt at reverse psychology. Thinking he would somehow scare you with the thought that you might actually lose him and thereby make you realize that you actually still want to be together.
“Off is the general direction in which you should fornicate”
The intellectual way to tell someone to fuck off… love it
I blame “Say Anything” (an otherwise awesome ass movie) for all the ex-boyfriend-stalkers in the world. It taught us that standing outside a girl’s window in a trenchcoat with a boombox blasting Peter Gabriel will win her back no matter what a loser you are haha.
Opacity said something in another thread that really has me thinking. For it to work, two people need to have the same definition of love. So Jeff’s definition is clinging to you like a life preserver in the North Atlantic. I’m sure someone else in the world has that definition so he needs to go stalk her.
You on the other hand should probably be dating Batman. You know, someone who has his own life that doesn’t necessarily involve hanging on you 24/7.
The rose photo is gorgeous… I can see how they appeal to you. Roses have such an unearthly color that separates them from the world. Even when the petals fall and dry up they retain that magic. My favorite flower is a ragweed :/
Lol Funny you should say that. I’ve always had a thing for batman. Maybe I’ll hit him up some time.
Its ok to try some of that corny shit we see in films, boombox blasting Peter Gabriel, sending a bunch of flowers, writing a letter that explains your love, but yes, there is a fine line.
Unfortunately, it could be your demeanour. I am too not very affectionate, but I dont have feelings for every girl that glances my way, nor do I fall in love all the time and I am very independant, I dont need someone in my life. If someone hurts me, says something, conficts majorly or the chemistry just isnt there, I wont waste anyones time. Sometimes people can see that as a mission or goal, to make me love them or want to spend time with them. Some people go overboard and dont realise how innappropriate they may be.
I think Jeff needs to seek professional help. The next victim could end up abused, kidnapped, severly injured or dead.