I guess that my mum’s depression and the suicide of his boyfriend made me learn a lot this past two years.
I know that everyone always say it, but you know it’s true: you need to look for help. Just tell someone what you are going through, call somebody when you have a crisis. They won’t make everything disappear, they won’t be there forever and they won’t probably fix anything, but having someone holding you in the worse moments does help a lot.
Depression tends to take us away from other people. We disappear of their lives and then we feel afraid or ashamed to call them. We stop the contact and then we feel lonely. You may feel like they don’t want to know anything about you. Sometimes we just have such horrible feelings that we think that everyone have to have noticed. The reality is that we people are blind, we don’t see anything unless we’re actually told.
Just give them a chance. Give yourself a chance. Call someone. Not that one who you feel more authorized to call, but that one who you know it will help to see. Doesn’t have to be family, doesn’t have to be a friend… you know, even your neighbor may be able to help you in a punctual crisis.
And if you don’t feel like calling anyone that you actually know, please, call a help line, go to a doctor, do something to get the help you need.
PS: They won’t read it, but I really need to thank those two persons who were not really close friends before this horrible year, but are always there for me.
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Depression does take us away from other people – makes you feel like you don’t fit in and that if you take off your mask and confess your true feelings that you will be thrown away like a piece of garbage. Sometimes, too, after years of depression, who DO you reach out to? You’ve exhausted your family and friends.