So a friend has been talking with me in WhatsApp for the last week. We hadn’t seen each other for months, and I had stopped talking to her months ago cause she didn’t reply.
So she has been talking to me this week, and today she called me crying. And, stupid as I am, I immediately drove to see her.
I could feel her pain, and I could relate to everything she was telling to me, as I feel it myself. But it just felt so wrong to be there for her even when she’s never there for me…
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Proves you’re a good friend, and maybe she can learn from your kindness. You are a selfless, giving person…awesomeness! 🙂
And after that she is going to forget about you. That’s why I hate people..
Some people are givers and some are takers. The act of giving should be its own reward. But I do understand that you feel taken advantage of. Maybe you should tell her how you feel. Maybe that will clue her in that she’s being unfair with you.
Btw, I wish a certain someone would call me, even if it was just to use me for something, and then discard me again. Us givers are just fools for love and pain, I guess.
I give up on friends when I realise they can’t support me emotionally… I am always there to listen and if they aren’t there when I need them, I’d rather not waste my time and spend it meeting people who are there instead.
Worthless that is so true…
I can’t accept love without pain. Happiness without hurt seems so empty to me. I need the bad times as much as I need the good.
the pain this community feels is so deep that we can’t help but notice when someone else is in pain. That by helping ease someone else’s we can, somehow, ease our own. But unless they truly understand our pain, unless they know the agony of depression, how can they possibly return the favor? Usually, they turn and run when they find out how tortured we are. Sad, but true. I agree with you all. Can’t know love without loss, can’t appreciate happiness without pain. Too many selfish people in the world. But you’re one of the good ones.
I confided in someone once about my cutting. Back when I was younger. Someone I was always there for. She told me “that’s insane.” Yeah, thanks for nothing…
Its truly hard to be understood and loved when your struggling to cope and carve out a bearable existence. For me I do seek others who are struggling too… But they have been too burdened with their own problems and find no room in their lives for me. It’s sad. I need to find balance. Right now I’m not healthy enough to even socialise myself. I know if I go out with ‘friends’… The energy I give will leave me exhausted and in a worse place. My life is a whirlwind at the moment … I can’t seem to catch up and get all my tasks done. I do think if I had someone, maybe life would be manageable … But in reality… I just don’t know.
Sorry your friend had left you. Maybe the next time she calls you tell her what you said here.
I can completely relate to your post and it may be true that she may leave again or not but at the same time thought of you in her lowest low. If you don’t have feelings for her stick around I’d say‚ leave if she does the same.