We deserve better.

Some time agoI did a whole post one what we “deserve” and how the word is used/applied:

http://suicideproject.org/2013/04/deserve/

“Life” at it’s base fundamentals is about survival and procreation to preserve the species – that’s it, like it or not, that is it.

“Being Happy” is also a unrealistic and misused concept – “Happy” is a “high” … a brief and fleeting moment that exceeds our normal condition and it’s relative to our normal condition. People seem to think that they can somehow manage to be perpetually “happy”, and that’s a delusional position to hold. Highs and lows in life happen regardless of our best intentions so the goal should be to maintain a net positive life experience where we maximize opportunities of the highs of happiness/ecstasy and minimize the opportunities for the lows of miseries/pain/troubles.

“Making a Difference” in the world starts with making a difference for yourself, within your home, and with those around you (friends/family/loved ones) … the old saying “Think Globally, Act Locally” applies. Example: I want to save all dogs … OK … so have I rescued a dog? Do I donate/volunteer to a shelter? If I don’t save ONE dog, I cannot realistically save ANY dogs. Most people only see the futility of an avalanche of statistics that their chosen action seems to have no effect at all … and it might not have any “noticeable” effect … but doing nothing, DOES nothing … saving ONE dog means at least ONE dog lives, so you’ve “Made a difference” to THAT dog.

Someone to Love … we ALL want someone – else – to love … but we all HAVE someONE to love – ourselves. If you can’t love yourself even a little bit, you’re not helping anyone else to love you at all, much less, a lot. We’re all “used cars” that have mileage and damage … key is to fix ourselves as best we can and show our good side, our strengths to others so they may want to ride with us … no one is perfect no matter how “perfect” they may seem.

Bottom line is – treat yourself with love and respect so that others may love you … you don’t have to live in the WHOLE world, only in your little local area – and you’re free to find the area that best suits you. But no area is perfect, just like people are not perfect.

A plant does not draw bees and butterflies to it until it blooms into flowers. But even with flowers, as beautiful as they are, the plant is still 95% branches, roots and leaves that have scars and cuts and bruises. Not all beautiful or perfect. But you HAVE to do your best to keep that 95% healthy and strong so that your flowers can bloom.

Work on yourself – fix and love yourself – be OK with yourself – be confident, and don’t worry about “finding” someone … take care of yourself and they WILL come.

But do not blindly trust people without cause, reason and evidence. remember that everyone has strengths and weaknesses so while a person might be trustworthy with your gold, they might not be trustworthy with your heart.

worldly dawg