MissDysphoria, I can relate really damned well. I’ve done, and said some terrible things, and I regret them every day. I can’t say I can fix what I once did, but I can say that I learn to live with it. We are human, we make mistakes, but we don’t let our mistakes make us.
Shitty as in evil, heartless, disparaging? I do that too when I’m really down. But what I do that I think is much worse:
Her: I really like you.
Me: You don’t mean that.
THAT is like a horrible thing to say to someone. And I do it all the damn time. Grrr!
I really try to follow the rule that if someone says something nice to me I acknowledge it and don’t add a “yes, but”. It’s very hard to follow that rule!
That’s something most people do, and they don’t even realize it most of the times. Heck, people’s perception alters so much what they understand that you might even be trying to say something nice and it might get interpreted as an insult by the listener. Not that i think this helps at all, but if you really think that you say bad things, realizing it is half the work, so it can always be worked on (if you really want to)… most people don’t care about being nicer to others, so the fact that you sort of care is already a good thing.
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We all misspeak sometimes. It happens. Most times, an apology can help thins move forward.
*things
i dont think that can help at this point…
MissDysphoria, I can relate really damned well. I’ve done, and said some terrible things, and I regret them every day. I can’t say I can fix what I once did, but I can say that I learn to live with it. We are human, we make mistakes, but we don’t let our mistakes make us.
Shitty as in evil, heartless, disparaging? I do that too when I’m really down. But what I do that I think is much worse:
Her: I really like you.
Me: You don’t mean that.
THAT is like a horrible thing to say to someone. And I do it all the damn time. Grrr!
I really try to follow the rule that if someone says something nice to me I acknowledge it and don’t add a “yes, but”. It’s very hard to follow that rule!
That’s something most people do, and they don’t even realize it most of the times. Heck, people’s perception alters so much what they understand that you might even be trying to say something nice and it might get interpreted as an insult by the listener. Not that i think this helps at all, but if you really think that you say bad things, realizing it is half the work, so it can always be worked on (if you really want to)… most people don’t care about being nicer to others, so the fact that you sort of care is already a good thing.