HomeGeneralLet me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.
Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.
i agree, i’m a bit of a loner myself, it’s not that i don’t like people but they don’t know what they are doing, and i seen it all before, that’s why i like SP we may be depressed but that’s because were smart. stupid people i envy them but i’m not one of them.
Sorry that should have said: Decree not Degree….auto correct.
And I shall curtsy to your kind words. We are not “classy” people we just actually have a brain with REAL WORLD opinions. Not that rot that has been stuffed into our heads but robots.
Exactly. We are real people with REAL emotions. We feel everything in between and we see nothing but the truth. We are not robots, we are not limited, we are human.
You are spot on Kaylee dee.We are what we are.We don’t hide our true self from others.We don’t pretend to be someone that we are not.Thank you Kaylee it was really splendid talking with you,I wish there were more peple like you around,that could you have solved half of the world problems.
Well, I do enjoy solitude, but sometimes I would like to hang out with others too… and that’s where the “being disappointed by people” factor comes in. *sigh*
Suicidal people are the best to talk with when you’re suicidal/depressed yourself, but they might not always be the easiest to get along with. Heh.
Yeah I can say Yes you are right in most circumstances. Nobody ever really wants to be alone. Humans are made to be social creatures. But if a person has tried to fit in with others and gets rejected or isn’t able to fit in properly. then that person might choose the option to go off and become a loner. I was a real loner for some years of my life and it WAS because I was not able to fit in with the regular people comfortably. Luckily I think the internet can be a blessing to the life of a loner because you can spend a lot of time alone but still have some kind of human interaction on the web.
I can never believe that ALL people feel this way or that way. That negates individuality. I genuinely enjoy solitude, especially when I am out in nature, but I don’t want to be alone 100% of the time. There are probably people who do, but I prefer having a small number of people in my life. I have never even thought about people disappointing me. Some have, of course, but it never occurred to me to apply this to people in general.
I’d say you’re partially right, some people enjoy partial solitude, i know i do, but constant, permanent solitude?… even if there might be a few individuals that do enjoy it, i’d never met or talked to one (i’m guessing because they want to be alone? lol), but at least to me, constant solitude is a soul crushing situation. Like you say, if i had to pinpoint a reason… yup, id’s say that it’s often caused by either people disappointing you, you disappointing people, or both. Either way, not a nice place to be in.
I turned into a loner in High School during my senior year, but it was more because I was disappointed in myself. I had a friend that I hung out with everyday at lunch and classes we shared, but I felt I was holding him back. He was such a charismatic person, I wondered why he would bother to try to include me. It was around the time my depression worsened. Eventually I just went to the library or a teacher’s class instead and we drifted apart.
Well, anyways. Yeah, I like solitude but not for extended periods of time. Humans are social creatures and all that jazz so even I need it. A little here and there is enough. I just don’t have the energy to socialize much anymore.
If your a reader and a thinker and good at keeping yourself occupied with positive things then you really dont need other people so much. But I do believe it is healthy to have at least some interaction with other people and at least one friend you can talk to.
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Luke2015,
i agree, i’m a bit of a loner myself, it’s not that i don’t like people but they don’t know what they are doing, and i seen it all before, that’s why i like SP we may be depressed but that’s because were smart. stupid people i envy them but i’m not one of them.
I hear you. Very true on all accounts both you Luke and Rocketman, I do degree. It’s true. Well said.
Thank God!!!!….finally some classy people….people with compassion in their hearts.Thank you rocketman and Kaylee dee for reading my post.
Luke2015, we know what’s up! and we like you 🙂
Ditto
Sorry that should have said: Decree not Degree….auto correct.
And I shall curtsy to your kind words. We are not “classy” people we just actually have a brain with REAL WORLD opinions. Not that rot that has been stuffed into our heads but robots.
And that’s all it matters,right?…..REAL WORLD opinions yes!…….not like those numpties we see around full of ignorance and rot stuffed in their heads.
Exactly. We are real people with REAL emotions. We feel everything in between and we see nothing but the truth. We are not robots, we are not limited, we are human.
You are spot on Kaylee dee.We are what we are.We don’t hide our true self from others.We don’t pretend to be someone that we are not.Thank you Kaylee it was really splendid talking with you,I wish there were more peple like you around,that could you have solved half of the world problems.
Thank you kindly Luke, the same could be said for you. Sometimes I feel as if we live within the book: 1984 in a completely utilitarian society.
All I know is when I look out my window and I see people walking past, I can’t help but think of them as robotic
my last word didn’t post in that…it was suppose to say:
robotic ants
Well, I do enjoy solitude, but sometimes I would like to hang out with others too… and that’s where the “being disappointed by people” factor comes in. *sigh*
Suicidal people are the best to talk with when you’re suicidal/depressed yourself, but they might not always be the easiest to get along with. Heh.
True but at least they understand
It’s actually scientifically proven that loneliness makes you more sensitive to negative behavior in other people.
Being on the perifery of the social group is dangerous: you’re more at risk in all sorts of ways. So your body goes into threat-detection mode.
Which biases you negatively towards other people.
That makes a lot of sense. Guess that explains why so many loners are also pessimists. 😛
Good observation. I never saw that connection before I believe your right.
Yeah I can say Yes you are right in most circumstances. Nobody ever really wants to be alone. Humans are made to be social creatures. But if a person has tried to fit in with others and gets rejected or isn’t able to fit in properly. then that person might choose the option to go off and become a loner. I was a real loner for some years of my life and it WAS because I was not able to fit in with the regular people comfortably. Luckily I think the internet can be a blessing to the life of a loner because you can spend a lot of time alone but still have some kind of human interaction on the web.
I can never believe that ALL people feel this way or that way. That negates individuality. I genuinely enjoy solitude, especially when I am out in nature, but I don’t want to be alone 100% of the time. There are probably people who do, but I prefer having a small number of people in my life. I have never even thought about people disappointing me. Some have, of course, but it never occurred to me to apply this to people in general.
I’d say you’re partially right, some people enjoy partial solitude, i know i do, but constant, permanent solitude?… even if there might be a few individuals that do enjoy it, i’d never met or talked to one (i’m guessing because they want to be alone? lol), but at least to me, constant solitude is a soul crushing situation. Like you say, if i had to pinpoint a reason… yup, id’s say that it’s often caused by either people disappointing you, you disappointing people, or both. Either way, not a nice place to be in.
I turned into a loner in High School during my senior year, but it was more because I was disappointed in myself. I had a friend that I hung out with everyday at lunch and classes we shared, but I felt I was holding him back. He was such a charismatic person, I wondered why he would bother to try to include me. It was around the time my depression worsened. Eventually I just went to the library or a teacher’s class instead and we drifted apart.
Well, anyways. Yeah, I like solitude but not for extended periods of time. Humans are social creatures and all that jazz so even I need it. A little here and there is enough. I just don’t have the energy to socialize much anymore.
If your a reader and a thinker and good at keeping yourself occupied with positive things then you really dont need other people so much. But I do believe it is healthy to have at least some interaction with other people and at least one friend you can talk to.
True