My step dad is drunk, he keeps yelling at my mom and saying how much he hates me. I was in the basement and he started yelling at me and calling me an asshole. My mom tried to get him to stop but then he attacked her and he grabbed by neck and pushed me against the wall. He’s never done this before, he keeps saying he’s getting a divorce and that it’s half my fault. I really don’t want him to hurt my mom or my sister.
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can you call 911 or someone??? if he’s physically threatening you all get someone in there who can help you I hope everything goes okay, keep us updated
Next time he tries to put his hands on you call the police.
I will, but it seems to calm down a bit. My mom called his mother, she’s here now trying to get him to calm down
Good. Still, I was raised by a violent alcoholic I wish I called the cops on him.
If he attacks anyone again I won’t hesitate
that’s good, I hope everything goes ok
I hope so too
He attacked you tonight? Just call the police now. Don’t wait until he kills someone. I had to call the police before when I was assaulted, and it made that person think twice again the next time. (They were a family member as well.)
I don’t think that’s a good idea, my mom is talking to him
Violent men don’t stop. The only thing that seems to scare them is being faced with police officers and the possibility of being charged with assault. They usually aren’t when it’s a domestic situation (unless it was really, really bad), but it does give them a wake up call.
Just call police your safety is important…
He’s packing his stuff and saying he’s going to leave, he also keeps calling me a disgusting human being
Do you have a phone? If so discretely turn on the voice recording and keep it in your pocket so that you have evidence of what he’s saying
If things get quieter and your stepdad calms down i’d say give it a bit of time. If it happens again tho (or if he doesn’t stop now, yeah, call the police. I do agree that violent men don’t stop, but there’s always non-violent men that do have an outrage once in a while (we all do, we’re humans after all). Not defending him, but it could be an isolated outburst.
Call the police. Your stepfather is an abuser and nothing about this is your fault. His actions and decisions are his and his alone. You deserve better and your mother deserves better. He deserves to be arrested.
He’s stopped, thinking about it now it really is all my fault. I’m a terrible person and everything he said about me is true.
It is not your fault. He is a crappy adult and truly bad parent.
No, he’s never done this before! He’s usually nice, but I made him snap. That’s just how disgusting I am.
He’s an outsider, he’s not your real family…since you’re not his blood he has no respect for you. Don’t internalize his hatred. Of course blood relatives have fights too, but when you don’t share that relationship, there’s even less care.
I agree with all the other posters here, put your safety first-don’t hesitate to call the police if things get out of hand. A bully only stops when they’re confronted by someone stronger than them because they’re cowards inside.
I think a divorce is a great idea-your mom should kick this asshole to the curb. You’ll be happier when he’s gone. When my parents divorced when I was young, things got way better. Hang in there, you will get through this.
There is no version of this where it is your fault. No one can make him cross a line and be abusive. He made that choice for himself and there is no excuse or reasoning for it ever being acceptable. None. Never. Nada.
His abusive nature is him and him alone. There’s no grey area here.
Yeah call the police, how could it possibly be your fault? He is the one being abusive
He says he’s moving out. My parents marriage is ruined because of me! All I can feel is guilt and hatred towards myself.
That’s total bullshit. He needs to grow up and be an adult. Children are never the reason parents split up, shitty coping skills, lack of any kind of relationship and failure to communicate are the reason marriages fall apart. I should know, I had one crash and am in this middle of the slowest train wreck of a relationship known to man.
Your step father is a spineless POS for blaming a kid for his lack of social skills.
I’ll add both of your parents should be completely ashamed of themselves.
I should have tried harder to die the last time I posted , none of this would have happened if I was dead.
It is not your fault. I hope things have calmed down and he does leave tonight. You and your family don’t need someone like that.
This isn’t your fault in the least. It’s that drunk asshole’s fault.