I’m writing this post in order to get some advise from you guys, in order to help my mom, who is 50 years old now.
My mom has been suffering from severe anxiety, OCD since many years. She also has been taking medications (anti-depressants) for a long time.
The anxiety has affected her health in a really bad way. She has high blood pressure for last 8 years and I think it’s because of anxiety only.
She is obese and cannot exercise, because of some problems with her knees. Since she’s physically inactive most of the time, I’m really worried she might develop serious heart disease. I have nightmares about that and it really creeps me out when I think about the consequences of her health.
I really want to help her, to improve her physical/psychological health, but I really don’t know how.
Like her, I also suffer from anxiety/OCD and I know a good deal about these disorders (thanks to internet!) and to some extent I understand her condition. But I really don’t know where to start..
I’m not a certified counselor to take the psychotherapy sessions.. How do I do it casually?
Please help.. She’s suffering really badly and I’m the only person who can understand her…
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There is nothing casually about THAT conversation. You will just have to tackle it head on.
Anxiety is rough. I have high anxity all the time and it does cause me to have high blood pressure as well. I have gone to see a Doctor who has prescibed me some meds that lower my anxiety meds. Is it possible for you to see a doctor who could prescribe meds for your mom???
That is what I would like to suggest.
Also sometimes there is a reason for the high blood pressure > like people have burdens on their minds that are causing them to have high anxiety. For me sometimes my high anxiety is over financial issues in my life.
You might want to talk to your mom and see if you can both figure out what is stressing her out??
My mom has medications for high blood pressure. She used to have anti-depressants as well for long time; but I guess not now.
I also really, really want to talk to my mom about anxiety.. But her anxiety is deep down her mind and she has concealed the anxiety for years. So I’m afraid if I try to dig out her anxieties with her, I’m not sure how she would take it…
yeah and as a person that loves my mom dearly (more than you can imagine, only reason im still in one piece) id feel like you need to ^ and just show your love to her so that she can improve more easily..
im not even able to see my mom . shes in a different country i havent seen her since a looooooong time ago. and now im crying. thats how much i love her, just her image in my mind is able to put me to a state of utter despair
I can understand your feelings..
I too live far away from my mother. But I meet her once in a month.
The thing is, although I know a good deal about anxiety and her condition, I am failing to help her and it breaks me apart.. it bugs me a lot and I cried many times every timeI realize it..
i dont think you understand my feelings.. but thanks
I understand your lov to your mom. I love her very much and as I mentioned many times before she is the reason I’m still around. Perhaps taking some advice from a specialist could be helpful. Maybe h will let you know how to behave and treat her on daily basis. Just some tips from me are helping around the house, not doing things that might annoy her in someway, make sure she takes her meds and follow doctors instructions and always show your love to her. Having someone showing his/her love to us is always a good thing.
Yes, I will try that. Thanks!
Try to find a good therapist where they can find deeper causes for her anxiety and work on that.