I wish I could just skip ahead 5 years. Just see how my life is going then. I don’t think I’ll go through with killing myself on December 31st. There’s too many things going on in my life to dump all my shit on others like that by dying. Actually I think I might join the Air Force in January. I’ve wannted to join the military for a long time and so many people in my life keep telling me not to, so I haven’t. They keep acting like they know me. They keep telling me “oh you won’t like these people dictating your life for four years” and I’m just sitting here like “literally you guys are telling me how to live my life right now” and j just need to get out of here so badly. I thought I was finally go on a date with this one guy I work with and it turns out all he wants to do is fuck me and not have a relationship. And I’m scared to go on a date with someone. I’m 19 and I have never been anywhere close to having a romantic relationship with a guy. Which honestly makes me feel like I can’t be in a relationship and it terrifies me. I just want to skip 5years and see how kno life goes with the decisions I make this year.
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If you want to join the Air Force or something, I think you should do it. See how it goes.. as long as you have some kinda idea as to what you wanf to do, then try your best to do it. I have no idea what I want in my life, and I hate it, especially because that’s the only thing I’m asked about right now….
Also, don’t be discouraged about being 19 and not being in a romantic relationship. I’m 20 years old and still a virgin, I’ve had only one gf irl when I was 16-17 (two online briefly that I kinda wish I never had), and in truth, I was never able to see any of them, physically contact them and talk to them face to face… It doesn’t mean you’ll be alone forever. Just try not to rush it. I think that’s my problem also.
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If you aren’t going to college, the military probably is a good option. If you have interest in joining the air force you should pursue it. Maybe go talk to a recruiter listen to the spiel collect some brochures and see what you think. If you don’t have any other long term goals, it could be a good choice to get some direction in your life. Air force you probably won’t have to worry about combat as much as army or marines. You might learn a useful trade that you can turn into a career after your service time is up, or maybe you will want to go to college after. Or maybe you will enjoy it and stay in the air force.
I did that when I was 18. Tried DeVry after high school but that didn’t work out and I similarly didn’t know what else I wanted to do. It was a nice hiatus before going into the real world, and I got paid to travel a little. (Year in England, a month in Panama) And the educational benefits at the time were pretty good; helped a lot when I got out and went to college.
But keep in mind this is not a job you can just quit if you don’t like it. Although people do get discharged from Basic training for “failure to adapt” (to the military way of life), you sign a contract that has legal ramifications for the term of your enlistment. And you do NOT want a Dishonorable Discharge on your record, which would haunt you for the rest of your life.
Basic will probably be a shock, being that it’s an intro to the military way of life. After that, tech school becomes more like college life (albeit in a restrictive environment). Once you get on the job, things can become pretty routine and a little more laid back. My living situation after basic and tech school was basically like a coed college dorm, two people to a room. (with periodic inspections to make sure you keep the place clean)
To an extent, they do run your life, but in some ways that’s good. As most new recruits are just starting out in life, they teach you life skills (personal finance, etc.). The pay isn’t bad, considering that room and board is paid for. I saved up quite a bit during my time in.
Of course, a big difference is that you can have a war situation pop up at any time and even though AF personnel are usually a long distance from the actual fighting, just being military makes you a target at those times.
Overall, I can recommend a stint in the military if you’re not sure what to do with your life. If nothing else, it’s room and board and income for a few years. It’s not for everyone though, so keep reading up and talking to people. I think the AF website also provides a detailed look at what to expect in Basic training, so definitely check that out too.
Good luck whatever you decide.
Thanks for the insight on the airforce! I have a couple cousins in various branches of the military and they all enjoyed their time in it. The only cousin who ended up killing himself because of ptsd was in the army which is why my family doesn’t want me to go into it. And I don’t think I would mind being in a war situation. If America went into a direct war like the world wars I’d rather be in a position to know more about it than a bystander watching it from tv. I have yet to get in contact with a recruiter but I probably will soon! I don’t want to be in college right now, I haven’t wanted to be in college since I started but if I drop out my parents will either kick me out or at least charge me for rent which I’m not in the position to do with my car payment and a shitty job. I desperately need a new start right now because everytime I do something it always ends in a dead end and I have to restart.