After a wonderful night out with a youth group it just got me thinking.
Even as I was spouting all these existentialist rationales about how we are essentially alone and cut off from each other’s “selves” in a physical sense, I forgot the fact that I was able to think of this at all because someone taught me, as a child, the language with which to… think.
And speak.
And sing.
Does the lack of complete human empathy really mean that we are essentially cut off from each other and, when it comes down to life and death, ultimately selfish?
It just really got me thinking.
ESPECIALLY when I was expressing an opinion and looking straight into a cute guy’s eyes.
It reminded me of the relationships that I’ve been in (pfft immature teenage relationships/ flings really) and how odd it would be once the break up happensn.
I read somewhere that when you enter in to a relationship, you somehow fuse your identity with the other person. That is why, when a breakup happens, people go through a grieving process. It is a cutting off of their intimate parts (do not misinterpret this. Thank you. Although the pain MIGHT be comparable), a breakage of their identity formed with someone whom they have let into the closest part themselves.
All this flashed through my mind as I was speaking and looking into the eyes of the cute guy.
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I’ll tell you what the truth is.
The truth is
This too shall pass.
The infatuation, the emotions. Two hours ago I was feeling hungry and dismal like I will never be happy again. Now I’m feeling a little giddy, definitely pampered (self-love and skincare routines! Yes!) and happy.
The one constant in life is change.
So if you have finished reading my thoughtful ramble, know that whatever you are feeling will pass- this thought has the power to make the happiest person sad, and the saddest person happy. I assume if you are on here things might be a little rough, but I promise- this will pass. This too will pass. There is something to life after all(says me after gulping down two full burritoes for dinner).
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Will pass when? It has already had several decades. How many more decades do I need to wait? You said “I promise” which means you can answer my question.
I cannot and will not justify any form of suffering. I’m truly sorry for you. Suffering happens to everyone in varying degrees… it has definitely raised some intense questions to which no absolute answer can be made. I don’t know you or your situation. I can’t predict anything. But surely there is something that you still go to your life, however mild the pleasure or unbearable the suffering, that still lights up your brain for a moment and says “this is good!” It can be so hard to remember those moments in the midst of bad feelings, which is why I wrote this post.
My heart is with you 🙂
This is a very intelligent post, thank you. I totally agree with the conclusion, that the only constant thing in life is change. I change so much it sometimes scares me. The whole life is a changing process, from night to day, from being young to growing older. And the thing is what do we do when things change, can we adapt or not, can we cope.
Even if it passes, there will be an impression, a print or a scar. Or a memory.
Yes, and sometimes these selves in the past can be so contradicting in their beliefs and actions that you wonder if you really do have free will. What if we really are just a combination of genes and environmental influence that are not necessarily consistent and coherent?
You have a very bright mind, and I hope you can keep developing and growing in that direction. Also, I can’t help it: Good morning starshine, the earth says hello.
Your comment brought a smile onto my face. Thank you! <3