This may seem like a strange question but it’s something I have been pondering and toying with over the years and I just wondered if anyone here does or ever has a shaved head? Stay with me here..
My mum shaved hair in the early 90’s and she looked beautiful like Sinead O’Connor but this is not so much a question of vanity or aesthetics, I would like to know what people experienced/ felt/ thought during and after having it shaved; did they feel liberated, cleansed, reborn? It may sound silly but its yet another thing that I fantasize doing and cannot quite bring myself to actually do it (yet). I have long hair and have done since adulthood although a few years a go I shaved the side and it has grown back. I’ve often thought about longingly as if perhaps the act could be therapeutic and afterwards I may feel different; empowered, more strong, liberated and cleansed like a fresh start you know? Then again maybe I just sound ridiculous.. It is just hair after all.. I dye mine frequently and yes it makes me feel good temporarily but inside I am still just the same rotten out person and I guess I cannot ever escape that..
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Sure, why not try it? What is the worst that can happen? It’ll grow back.
I’m worried that I’ll regret it and feel worse than I already do.. I’m very self conscious and vain (which hate by the way) not in the sense that I love my appearance but I am obsessed with it, it bothers me and that’s a part of one of my many problems. Have you ever done it?
Two other guys and I once tricked a friend into shaving his head by saying that we all would. The problem was that afterwards, the other guys decided to join him. If only one guy does it then it’s a funny prank, if only one guy doesn’t then it’s like he broke his word so I ended up joining them. I have beautiful golden locks which flow majestically in the wind 😉 so I definitely regretted it. It depends though. I usually ask myself what I would regret more. You may have a year of regrets after doing it or a lifetime of regrets for not. The plus here though is that you can do it whenever you want. It’s a choice so even if you’re 60 you can still do it. No rush
Half of mine fell out, now I shave the other half. Nobody notices. Nobody cares. I see kids with hardly any hair all the time. If you wanna do it, do it. If someone gives you a hard time, tell them you have lice and then rub your scalp and flick your fingers at them. It’s just hair. It will grow back. We aren’t talking about decorative kidney carving. Relax.
I think Baconrind said it perfectly. Ask yourself what could you regret more if it didn’t go as planned plus what ever you decide, the hair grows back affer some time and you can also postpone it and do it later when you won’t have doubts about it anymore if you’ll still feel like doing it
All very wise and relative advice thank you, I guess really I was hoping for another woman to share her experience in shaving off her beloved locks.. I’m sort of torn between the attachment I have with my mane and the urge to completely flip the other way, shed my skin be liberated from it and no more dying.. No more fairy/elf/princess plaits.. Well I still have a shit load of green dye left so may as well make the most of that but If and when I am ready perhaps I shall know. No rush.
I am a woman. I have shaved my head a few times. I guess it does feel kind of cleansing and liberating but I dunno it is also kind of like self-harming in a way. It gets a lot of negative attention and looks pretty bleh growing out. You have had the idea for a while though so you are never gonna stop thinking about it until you do it? Maybe all women should do it at least once. It hadn’t occurred to me that I have a weird shaped skull until I had done it. My skull is just not a good round shape, haha. So it looked kinda like a baboons ass to me which was disappointing (lol). I can laugh about it now but at the time it was terrible…
Hi Bruiseviolet, thank you for sharing. Yeah, I think the whole shape of my head thing is what has put me off so far- no matter how tight I tease my hair back I still will never know exactly what it will look like until I’ve done it and then I’m stuck with it until like you say, gets a bit worse before its a decent length to work with.. Scary yet still so endearing.. I think you’re right that we should all try it at some point though. If I knew that I would look like my Mum did I wouldn’t hesitate but my features are more unusual not necessarily bad but at the moment my face is just wee bit podgier than it usually is something as striking as a shaved head can draw attention to and change our perception of our entire bodies, I’m quite insecure with mine at the moment so it would definitely be a good idea for me to get fitter again first and be sure of myself. Then again like you pointed out about the self harm side I have come very close to doing it that way before and either myself or someone else has stopped me but who knows? Anything can happen and I no longer assert any expectation from life or myself! Thanks again for your response. I did chuckle to myself when I got to “baboons bottom” I couldn’t help myself I’m sure it wasn’t as bad as you thought we always seem to subliminally amplify our disappointments or “imperfections” watch this space, mine could very well be worse..
Or I may discover my inner Patrick Stewart..