Well, it’s Valentine’s Day here in the US, a day where single people are made to feel like shit because they’re single, and coupled men feel annoyed they have to go all out to get something special for their wives/gfs/etc because society says they should overspend for everything on that day. Commercialism at it’s best.
Not that I think there’s anything wrong with pampering a girl and getting her stuff, but doesn’t that send the wrong message, that you do it on only certain days, like v day, birthday and anniversary? Shouldn’t a girl be treated nice by her bf/hub EVERY day? I know lots of men who only do these things only on a designated holiday or bday or anniversary, which is sad.
Anyway, back to V day for singles- it sucks.
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Well… yeep hate that love shit. This day is a reminder of all the things wrong with me.
I hope you don’t mind my commenting about something my SO said, but you might appreciate it. He isn’t opposed to holidays, but strongly opposed to feeling obligated to purchase gifts on specific days (except for something personal, like a wedding). He says gifts should come from the heart, so we will often just say “Happy Whatever Day” and leave it at that. There is nothing wrong with being single and no holiday should make someone feel bad about it. (I realize what I said doesn’t alleviate loneliness)
Single people are made to feel like crap because there isn’t such a day as “Happy Singles Day.”
Yes, that’s the whole think about holidays- that people are EXPECTED and obligated to get something for someone else, so people do it because of that, not because they want to, which does devalue anything they do or get for you on that day. Like when “friends” you aren’t close with get you gifts, you know it’s because society says they should, not because they really like you. Anyway, commercialism rant. Humans get suckered by companies who make up holidays so they can make money off of us.
Oh, I was referencing xmas with the friends gifts part
Yes, commercialism is not helpful.
I have read about some of the gift and/or party obligations in other cultures and it is unbelievable what they are expected to spend.
oh wow it’s worse in other places? i thought it was bad here lol
There’s no way for me to verify that everything I’ve read is entirely true, but even if only part of it is true, we’re talking spending enough to put the family in dire straits (kind of like we sometimes do with weddings).
Ritualized behavior offends some. It certainly offended me in my 20s and 30s. Then, somewhere in my 40s; raising my son; my mom dying; being married – rituals started making sense – I was able to perceive the strength in them.
No judgement above, just commentary.
I find being alone on new year’s to be much more awful than Valentine’s Day. You can always give a platonic Valentine to a relative or an old friend or a teacher or a neighbor or an entire message board.
I’ve got a Valentine post for SP that will pop up this afternoon. We love each other here, so it seemed appropriate to me.
D’ness, happy Valentine’s Day. I care about you. Others here do too. This may not be the coconut butter handjob administered by blind hyperintelligent prostitutes with amazing psychic powers that you were hoping for, but it’s something. We are brothers and sisters here. We are not alone here.
Hm, “Happy Cannibal Day.” With this crazy world and crazy dumb humans, I wouldn’t be surprised if 300 years later we’ve f***ed up our animal food supply so much that we can only eat other humans. Hm, let’s give it 100 years.
Man! There a story I want to write a story about!!!
About ten years ago, there was a cannibal in Germany that advertised on Craigslist for victims. People showed up at his door. People *wanted* to have some parts of them cut off and eaten. Some wanted to taste themselves, some wanted to share, some wanted to give it away. A few wanted to die and be eaten. This guy obliged everyone. Completely consensual. Kept his place clean and his knives sharp. They threw him in prison, of course.
I miss the ritual too, but I remember when it was more about the activities than about the spending (not that buying gifts wasn’t a part of Christmas, of course). While the pressure to spend seems to be about the same or greater, the importance of the holidays themselves seems to have lessened.
Hallmark “holidays” are not real, should not be observed or even remotely cared for or considered to take up even a fraction of a second of one’s thoughts
In fact, Valentine was a well known serial sadistic killer, hiding under the guise of love, tormenting and murdering couples in love (considered to be the inspiration for the Zodiac killer), newly weds, pretending to assist star-crossed lovers but instead deceiving them leading them to their demise, in a remote “romantic” garden of torture blood and guts and eventual death, so he could snack on their hearts
Likewise Cupid was rogue spree “sniper” of the day, using the weapon of his time, bow and arrow, inflicting much damage to the public, the cute “diaper wearing baby angel” stems from his capture wearing nothing but a toga that had slipped, slid down around his waist, and been mangled after a life on the run, being clinical insane and homeless for years
until we celebrate Hannibal Lecter in the selfsame fashion and institute a international Happy Serial Killer day, i don’t think people should trouble themselves with just another pointless meaningless date in the calendar, no matter how much businesses would like to turn a profit
my break is over, have to return to the basement now since the screams have seized, and its time to make them start again
Happy “rip your hearts out” day!
Same here, it sucks to be single.
I dig the thread of this post. And this post in general. Seesmith <3 you're awesome.
As for this day first why do some of us, me included let a day bug us? Cause it's how some of us were raised my mother always made and still makes a big deal out of every holiday it's annoying. I hate this day always have I find it dumb. (I'm the same about almost every holiday tho minus the 4th st Patrick's day and Halloween) I did have one good Valentine's Day but I get annoyed that I allowed that to happen because now I don't just dislike the over hype of a pointless day but I also have a memory that I'm a little bitter about too. I hate that I have to pretend to be so awww sweet today cause I work with kids and their parents make a big deal about it so I can't crush their spirits, so I suck it up and am trying to be smiles. I will be drinking tonight. Alone as it should be. Reading Harry Potter and packers Valentine's online cause I have an abnormal obsession.
Lastly I do want to say even tho I want to stab people and tear out their hearts today I do want to say I do love all the amazing people on here and I really do mean that 🙂
I just cross my arms and go, “hmm, I don’t know about this one.”
This days easy to me, never been married, and not had a girlfriend for quite a while. Xmas was much harder.
I recently watched a documentary about Adolf Hitler. After his rise to power, and his establishment of “racial education”, kids were taught “how to recognize a Jew” – “funny nose”, “suspicious face”, etc, etc.
I can’t help but wonder – what is the difference between what Hitler taught Germany’s kids and this culture telling us “You’re a loser if you’re alone on February the 14th” ?
Because both sound a lot like “brainwashing”.
Personally, I couldn’t care less what day of the year it is. I’ve been unemployed for 2 years and broke for a year 🙂 I hardly know what day of the week it is. All I care about is – is it raining/cold ? Is the weather bum-friendly ?
Hey Ein. Just saying hello bud and wishing you well.
Hey dude, thanks 🙂
I never celebrated holidays. I’ve been invited to bday parties and christmas parties and what not, but I just felt too awkward. I was raised not believing in/celebrating any of the holidays. As a result, I was “alienated”. To make things more annoying, I was never able to explain my reasons why properly enough, so I just seemed like a jerk.
Anyway, solitude is a blessing, loneliness is a curse. At times, it’s about your perspective at that moment in time…. Today is just another day for me, so it’s no big deal.
I could never understand making fun of someone for not celebrating holidays or for celebrating particular ones. Geez, who cares.
That’s how people are. If you don’t conform, then there’s something wrong with you. That’s how society thinks.
Hehehe I feel like darkness made this sp specially for me lol